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Cake day: August 26th, 2024

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  • Not who you responded to.

    It’s like saying you need and app in order to use Instagram

    That’s exactly what your Instagram app is: An application to use the Instagram “service”. The only difference is that the app is developed by the same people who develop the Instagram service.

    it needs to be an integrated app

    In some cases, an app is even just another design of the same web page you visit with your browser. The Netflix app you have on your Windows PC is just the web page wrapped in a certain way so that it looks like a program you find on your computer.

    That list up there are what you call “integrated apps”.


  • I listen to Bach’s “Weihnachtsoratorium”/Christmas Oratorio (BWV 248) every year. I play it specifically on December 24th when my kids, my wife and I do the decorations. I don’t even like the Christmas Oratorio that much. But at least my wife knows why I excuse myself at times.

    When I was little, on the evening of Dec 24th, we used do decorate the Christmas tree and my parents were adamant on playing the Christmas Oratorio at full volume when we did so. None of us are/were religious in any way, quite the contrary, but both of them were huge classical music fans. Especially my father used to be a massive Bach fanboy.

    As a child who grew up learning to sing and to play several instruments, I hated this thing of theirs with a passion. I couldn’t stand this music genre. It was so far removed from what I liked and what life entailed for me; it was the sound of getting me the fuck away from home. I couldn’t deny it was a part of me, but it was a part that I despised.

    Then, when I was in my early 20s, my Dad came down with aggressive cancer. After his last Christmas, we tried one last therapy which the doctors admitted was kind of experimental because the medication hadn’t been tried on patients with cancer of that type or that far advanced.

    We don’t know what exactly happened. But this dear man, who had collected several dozen CDs of his favorite versions of Bach’s pieces, who had been searching and saving for rare editions just to get all the “right” recordings, he suddenly… didn’t understand his favorite music. And if you know baroque music - it takes some understanding to fully appreciate it.

    He just didn’t get it anymore. Something in his brain got rewired during those last few months. “They’re playing it wrong!” he shouted angrily. It didn’t matter that this was the same CD he had listened to for ten years. My sister tried singing folk songs with him - which he used to enjoy - and while he himself sang pitch-perfect, he was perfectly sure that “nothing was right”. Have you ever seen a bed-ridden person go beserk? He winced when he turned, but he was infuriated. Eventually, we all gave up. There was no saving his love for music, it just… up and left him. One of the things which used to define him as a person was simply gone. All joy for any of it, evaporated, poof, without a trace. Cancer finally broke him, broke us. We buried him a few weeks later.

    This one, minuscule, thing that he had saved to enjoy when he was old… he couldn’t. A part of what my father was, in the matter of a few days, just vanished. There was little left for and left of him. I can’t blame him for leaving before saying goodbye.

    But I will never forgive the god I had never believed in for taking that last bit of joy away from a dying man.

    Verily: “Jauchzet, frohlocket! Auf, preiset die Tage! Rühmet, was heute der Höchste getan!”


  • one side is saying how shit you are and how you deserve nothing. it’s only women who are worthwhile and you should just fuck off and die.

    Except this is a right-wing talking point and a misrepresentation of what left-wing ideals encompass.

    the other side is saying ‘do this and you’ll be successful’, it sucks right now but you will get there if you try.

    Except that’s not what they communicate, because while they offer “solutions” (mostly towards a rather suppressive and overly strict understanding of gender stereotypes) they immediately find in and shift the blame for young men’s problems towards an out-group, such as the “radical left” and LTBGQ people.

    In fact, I find it’s the right that actively hates me for just being me because I don’t conform to their idea of what a man is, even though I’m a cis-hetero white male.

    “Don’t try to find your own way because this is what you need to be, and everything else is degenerate and shameful.”

    I know which I find more appealing.


  • To note: I’m not who you responded to.

    making separate laws for separate genders is not the solution

    Absolutely it is. If there is a measurable inequality towards a minority, you should enshrine the protection of that minority into law - which is one reasons why many countries specify anti-discrimination laws. This law regards the same.

    The problem here is completely different

    Which you have failed to specify. So… the problem is what, exactly? I don’t see one.

    and requires different solutions.

    Which you also failed to provide.

    I’m getting a strong “but won’t anyone think of the men!” vibe from you.





  • Yeah, no. You’re misrepresenting the claim of the person you responded to.

    Nobody is disputing the rise of the far right in Germany, nor the increasing police brutality. We experience the same authoritarian tendencies as other countries.

    This article, however, paints the country as an already authoritarian police state where expressing the wrong opinion will get you jailed. That’s not happening (yet).






  • The post alone makes me angrier than the cooking result, and that’s saying something.

    It looks like student cuisine. Is it really so reprehensible that someone improvises with limited resources? To me, it shows a lot of potential because the good will is there.

    People have different skill sets and levels. So, instead of looking down on it, maybe next time you should cook with him instead of arrogantly posting a photo for praise from people who, unlike this person, have no influence on your life?

    Pro tip: Cooking together is a fantastic date.






  • Same, I’m also almost 19 months in, after so many tries.

    How did you do it?

    Turns out what I needed wasn’t an iron will but to understand why I smoked. I tracked every cigarette for two weeks, writing down the time and the reason - boredom, a context switch (“I just arrived at the office, now I need to get ready”), anxiety, needed a break…

    Once I had that, I could start identifying the reasons for my cravings more easily, which in turn made it easier to switch to a healthier alternative, knowing the craving would pass.

    Another two weeks later, I had already cut down my consumption from like 20 to 5 cigarettes a day, which felt wildly empowering. At that point, quitting entirely felt doable, so I did. That feeling made me excited to quit.

    I mean, it was still not a walk in the park, but motivation was so much higher than before. I still used nicotine spray for a while to help with the worst cravings.