I’m (19F by the way, not like 50) a bad texter. I can be not dry when I want to be, but usually I’m just not up for texting. I really don’t engage with my friends. (I’m asocial).
I don’t participate in their activities. I don’t really ask them how they are, or what their interests are. I don’t even engage in deep discussion with them unless I’m up for it.
When my friend sends a video that reminded her of me or that she finds funny, I don’t click it and just ignore it.
Maybe my friends are growing apart and they text me less because of this, but I’m kind of okay with that because I know they will be there for me when I need it and because I’m genuinely just tired/bored most of the time.
One time, my friend asked me if I’d like to spend time with her, and I just point-blank said “No”. IDK if that’s rude just because I’m being honest and also because it’s not personal, I don’t want to engage with anyone.
Yikes, are you ok? Being asocial is generally not regarded as being healthy. Also fyi, you’re at an age where you have to engage with friends to keep them, they will drift away otherwise. Loneliness is a massive bitch and I’d really difficult to get out of. Friendships like any relationship require maintenance. You’re neglecting your relationship maintenance at the moment if you continue, you will loose your friends.
Thank you. No I am not okay, thank you for asking. My friend just blocked me, apparently because she’s going to “leave me alone now”
Yeah, that checks out, but remember youre not a fundamentally bad person. You can possibly even salvage the friendship with apologies and doing some work on yourself. Either way, working on yourself is a good idea, it’s worth it just in general also.