This is the one thing that’s hardly ever mentioned in the whole age gap debate, though I would add that there are constellations that are creepy by default.
Being a 35+ old man, I feel that I’m at kind of a landmark age where dating someone 20 years younger than me would be gross, let alone illegal in most jurisdictions, so the ‘it depends on your behaviour and intentions’ argument doesn’t really hold. In contrast, I can very much imagine dating a 55 year old woman - and no, it’s not a MILF fetish. So in the end, your intentions/behaviour AND Gender AND actual age gap do matter IMHO.
Can you explain why you find the suggestion so outrageous ? I’m not advocating a 35 year old woman dating a 15 year old boy. I’m only saying that biology matters.
I can’t think of a worse way to frame this discussion. There are significant differences between a 35 yo man dating a 15 yo girl and a 50 yo man dating a 30 yo woman, legality being just part of it. Swapping the genders doesn’t make it better.
This is the one thing that’s hardly ever mentioned in the whole age gap debate, though I would add that there are constellations that are creepy by default. Being a 35+ old man, I feel that I’m at kind of a landmark age where dating someone 20 years younger than me would be gross, let alone illegal in most jurisdictions, so the ‘it depends on your behaviour and intentions’ argument doesn’t really hold. In contrast, I can very much imagine dating a 55 year old woman - and no, it’s not a MILF fetish. So in the end, your intentions/behaviour AND Gender AND actual age gap do matter IMHO.
Gender matters?
GTFOH with that shit
I didn’t disagree with you until that point
Can you explain why you find the suggestion so outrageous ? I’m not advocating a 35 year old woman dating a 15 year old boy. I’m only saying that biology matters.
I can’t think of a worse way to frame this discussion. There are significant differences between a 35 yo man dating a 15 yo girl and a 50 yo man dating a 30 yo woman, legality being just part of it. Swapping the genders doesn’t make it better.