The big thing I’m concerned with here is consent. Sleeping together does not imply consent. If you’re sleeping with me and you want sex, then you have to make that clear in some way. I’m not going to initiate sex if there isn’t something going on that makes it clear that you want sex. Watching Buffy together doesn’t cut it. Otherwise, I could wind up raping somebody, and I don’t want to do that.
Think about if the roles were reversed. Would you invite a woman over, watch some TV, and then ask her to get into bed with you, expecting sex? If it was seduction, it was the most clumsy and indirect seduction ever.
Don’t beat yourself up. Here’s how I see it.
The big thing I’m concerned with here is consent. Sleeping together does not imply consent. If you’re sleeping with me and you want sex, then you have to make that clear in some way. I’m not going to initiate sex if there isn’t something going on that makes it clear that you want sex. Watching Buffy together doesn’t cut it. Otherwise, I could wind up raping somebody, and I don’t want to do that.
Think about if the roles were reversed. Would you invite a woman over, watch some TV, and then ask her to get into bed with you, expecting sex? If it was seduction, it was the most clumsy and indirect seduction ever.