Has a dream where he has an open conversation with someone, feels better
“Fuck talking about my feelings”
Anon is enlightened and regarded
Fuck taking to real people, we schizophrenics stick with our real imaginary friends.
my ai girlfriend will be really upset when she reads this
Had a real good open hearted, out load chat with myself. Best talk I had in years. Changed my outlook on life. Talking helps. Therapists make it easier on people.
He is very highly regarded
I couldn’t get over my high school girlfriend until my thirties. One time, I had a dream in which she told me that my obsession with her was unhealthy and that I needed to move on. It didn’t help.
(I do think it’s hilarious that she rejected me even in my own dreams.)
I still think about someone I liked in high school, even though I’m happily married and wouldn’t change anything about what happened. In fact, I think I’d have more problems if I ended up with that them than my SO.
I think most people have that “one that got away” that they think about, regardless of their current relationship status. And I don’t think it has anything to do with that specific individual, but the circumstances that made them stand out to you at the time, like that favorite video game that doesn’t hold up today but you still want to replay (or maybe have replayed multiple times).
My dreams are brutally realistic sometimes too lol, which makes me grumpy. Shouldn’t we be trying out other ideas, ya dork ass brain?! Isn’t that a lotta the point of dreaming at all?!
A lot of therapy is just Buddhism repacked for modern audiences
or any meditation technique/speech therapy.
christian monks used to do the same. i think it was called “confession” or something when you talked about things that bothered you with somebody who was reasonably intelligent in a private context.
i guess it really helped and might have been the modern equivalent of talking to a therapist.
also: praying. It’s basically meditation, depending on your practice.
You’re quietly going through your thoughts and, well, meditate on them. Lots of good ideas and solutions can come from that alone
I’ve gotten into tarot for a similar reason. By the time you’re done with a full celtic cross you’ve done basically all of the you side of a therapy session. If you know some of the psychotherapeutic concepts from either training or just having been a bunch you can fill in most of what a therapist would have said on the other end. There’s some things that you’d really just need a professional for anyway but it can help fill in a lot of the gaps when you would’ve needed weekly therapy for a long time and need to pick up some kind of introspective practice to be able to see the therapist less.
Crows -> Buddhism?
No, just this one particular crow.
Sounds more like some kind of pagan animism to me
unironically
You might be joking but: There has been a story a long time ago:
People (mostly men) who are mostly bald on the top of the head, but have like hair on the side, are said that their hair is a “crow’s nest”. (because it looks a bit like one of these things:)
These people were said to have reached enlightenment, wisdom, or knowledge, because the bird (raven or crow) stands for wisdom, insight or knowledge. (compare that to the owls in ancient greece, ravens in nordic mythology, dove in christianity or eagle in the US culture.)
That is i believe partially also why this hairstyle was considerably popular among christian monks, who would often use shears to achieve hair that looks like that.
Just Rick and two crows, till the end of time
crows are so fucking epic
Once you make peace with the reality that they are not the partner/person you perceived them to be, this easier it is to realize they are a mess of insecurities just like you or I perhaps stacked in a different order but nonetheless the hot mess Express even if they seem like they have it together… I spent years as a young man being pissed at various exes and then realize that the problem was me. I was choosing people that I wasn’t good and compatible with whether or not they were good people has nothing to do with my ability to choose. I hope I’m better…
Yeah, the number of extremely successful people that OD on drugs alone, or commit suicide just highlights to me that everyone is insecure, just about different things. Once you realize that, it’s a lot easier to interact with other people because they’re just the person on the other side of the conversation. I still don’t like talking with powerful people (employers, police officers, local leaders, etc), but it helps knowing that they’re probably struggling with something themselves.
So yeah, if a relationship isn’t working out, either try practicing empathy (assume they’re going through some heavy stuff) or find someone with a different mix of insecurities and problems that are more compatible with your own.
While Castaneda’s work was accepted as factual by many when the books were first published, the training he described is now generally considered to be fictional.
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Yeah I haven’t read his books, I just read a couple articles about the guy after seeing him mentioned in a meme post here on lemmy. Here are a couple of the more interesting articles:
Ima just transcribe that second link here.
Here his ex-wife recalls a pivotal point in Castaneda’s career: the day he met two other counterculture icons, Timothy Leary and Richard Alpert (who later became known as Ram Dass).
It was 1964, down in the East Village, smack in the center of the hippest community on earth, that Carlos ran into the great Tim Leary. Carlos, in town to visit some friends, had become quite interested in Leary by this time. Word of Leary’s Harvard experiments, his forced departure to Mexico, and the subsequent retreat to a spacious estate in Millbrook, New York, had been a big topic of conversation among the students at UCLA, where Carlos was a graduate student in anthropology. You couldn’t go a day at Haines Hall without hearing about him.
But the thing was, Leary’s experiments had the vague look of legitimate scientific inquiry. At least in Carlos’ mind they did, and so he paid particular attention. Leary was rising on the East Coast as the hottest thing in psychedelia–a visionary whose time had come; Carlos kept close watch from the West Coast. He read about Leary in Time, Newsweek, and Life, in specialized publications and journals, and he talked about Leary with friends. Carlos had been thinking a lot about Leary, even when he did his own psychedelic research with the Yaqui Indians near the Arizona border; and so it was a real surprise to run into the real thing one night at a party in the East Village.
Carlos had the preconceived notion that he and Leary were somehow on the same wavelength, both scientists probing social unknowns. Carlos was wrong. For one thing, Leary and Richard Alpert were stars at the party, and Carlos was a nobody. Ego was the game here, not science, and everybody huddled around Leary, who was slouched down in a peach wingback chair with that brilliant toothy grin of his. They were talking about mushrooms and acid, so when Carlos interjected something about his experiences with the Indians, nobody paid much attention. It was as if his words disrupted the flow of things.
This was no gathering to talk about cognitive dissonance; Leary was preaching acid revolution. He was babbling on about the “elixir of life” and the “draught of immortal revelation.” All the hip young scholars in bleached Levi’s were nodding, while Leary just sort of jangled at the joints there in the chair, going on in an eloquent stream of consciousness about his mystical tantric crusading vision. He talked about the tantrics, the demons, the Sufis, the Gnostics, the hermetics, the sadhus . . .
Leary was stoned. Carlos shook his head and looked disgusted. Leary must have seen it, because he sat up in the chair and glowered out from behind half-closed eyes, looking carefully at the way the light bounced off the Orlon in Carlos’ suit and the way it was buttoned in the middle and at the Don Loper pastel shirt and that stringy little black tie with a knot the size of a grape at the collar.
“What’s your astrological sign?” asked Tim Leary.
Carlos mumbled something about being a Capricorn.
Leary nodded. “A structure freak,” he sneered. Then he turned to Alpert, giggled, and teased him about being a Jewish queer. Alpert wasn’t saying anything, just sitting in the corner, meditating in a long cloak, making a great serious godhead-like face. Alpert reached into a broad kangaroo pocket in his robe and pulled out apples and bananas, which he handed to everybody. He wasn’t even smiling.
The scene was a crude parody of itself. The luminaries and hangers-on were actually bumping into each other in the center of the room, and they all had the horrible red rims around their eyes that always come in the final stages of a bleak amphetamine daze. The great Leary was indulging in incoherent revelations, and Alpert was in the corner giving away bananas. People were caroming around. It was all just too hip. Carlos Castaneda, the one in the Orlon suit, decided it was time to go.
From A Magical Journey with Carlos Castaneda by Margaret Runyan Castaneda.
Fascinating anecdote. Quite a bleak portrayal of the counterculture movement of the 1960s, but sadly believable.
There’s another relevant article here (with really bad formatting):
Very Disco
I’m bald.
hi bald. i’m fest
Same bra
fuck talking about my feelings
Anon moved on by talking about their feelings in the dream though 💀