• AItoothbrush@lemmy.zip
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    21 hours ago

    People really dont understand how languages work. Even brother and man can be gender neutral. If you say “man, whyd you do that” thats gender neutral. Same with dude and guy.

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      5 hours ago

      gay men call each other sis and girl all the time too, for alternatives that go in reverse

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      13 hours ago

      Idk about the rest of it but dude and guys can totally be gender neutral and i hate people that dont get that. Its such a bitchy thing to get mad about

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        13 hours ago

        Also queen, “James, you’re such an Excel queen”. I’ve seen this sort of use many times at my workplace. It doesn’t have anything to do with gender or sexual orientation.

        It’s obviously more niche than “dude” but I’ve seen it before.

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          52 minutes ago

          Claims to understand language

          doesn’t understand word is being used in a non-gendered manner… The verb is completely detached from the noun in normal use. You could say Elon musk is the world’s richest bitch and that would not be even insulting. That would be a snide way to say he is exceedingly wealthy. If I said Elon Musk that rich bitch? then again, bitch would not be being used in a derogatory or gendered manner. If I said Elon musk is a massive bitch. Now we have finally arrived at an insult. Still not gendered.

          Edit side to snide

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      11 hours ago

      But like…I think it goes beyond just gender specificity & is also an attempt to address the embedded patriarchy of our culture & language. Those interjection words being male of center as a default is something I wanna unpack, too.🤷🏽

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        9 hours ago

        As another comment said “queen” being gender neutral and coming from a word used for females originally. Also patriarchy is embedded in language but you cant really change it. Its always better to agree on a gender neutral phrase than have an infight(classic left wing moment…) and then revert to the previous gendered language because of it. We should all just speak hungarian, barely any gendered stuff in there(def not biased because its my mother tounge)

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          5 hours ago

          Lol Elon Musk would probably start banning all users who did this on Twitter if it gained any traction.

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      16 hours ago

      This. I’ve got a fair few trans friends, and we’re all in agreement - unless it’s obvious we’re talking in gendered terms based on context, “dude”, “man”, “bro”, etc are just interjections, not reference to someone’s gender. And, when we are talking in gendered contexts, we tend to be pretty clear about that.

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        17 hours ago

        Thats a joke right? Because youre getting downvoted, but you yourself called me bro without knowing my gender so it must be a joke or youre the most oblivious person ive ever seen.