I just found out my best friend of over a decade is transphobic. I don’t really have more to say. I’m just devastated and feeling really alone.

  • TheOtherJake@beehaw.orgEnglish
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    1 year ago

    Hopefully they grow as a person and change in time.

    Growing up in a fundamentalist Christian extremist family, it can be hard to rewrite one’s own objective moral code. It takes time and reflection to develop philosophically and emotionally independent of the socially isolated projected/pressured rigid stances that may have gone unquestioned since birth. It took me years of atheism to really take control of my own moral compass independent of any peer pressure and I’m sure I still have room to grow.

    I don’t mean to project myself onto your friend. I just wanted to say, with some substance: Much love! People can change!

  • Melody Fwygon@lemmy.oneEnglish
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    1 year ago

    I feel your pain. May you find 10 more friends just as close as the one you lost; who are not transphobic.

    Or maybe someday you’ll have luck in educating the one you lost. Whatever the outcome; know that you are valid and accepted. Some people just haven’t caught up yet.