By that logic all women are trash too. I could give examples of just about every woman I know doing shitty things. Nobody’s perfect. People do shitty things. Sometimes it’s just here and there. Sometimes it’s a consistent pattern of behavior. All men and all women are not consistently bad, some are. If your friends are consistently like that you have bad friends. I have had to explain shit to my friends on occasion and I’ve had to have things explained to me. It happens but it’s far from a consistent thing and we’ve all gotten better as we’ve grown and broadened our perspective.