After spending a few days learning about lemmy and other fediverse websites, I was curious about people’s processes for picking a server that is right for them. I’ve seen most posts say to pick one that is not too big or small and that has similar interests as yourself. But if we are all mostly federated, doesn’t it make the most sense to join the biggest or likeliest server to stay around and federated with the most other servers? Then you can just travel to the instances you share interests in. I chose this instance because you could just sign up and be in it, and that was all I needed to check things out. And although I found many communities in other instances, even if let’s say all of my subscribed communities are on other instances, doesn’t it make sense to just stay here so long as they are federated with sh.itjust.works? It may be too early to know for sure, but it seems like this instance is going to stick around for the foreseeable future, why risk joining the smaller instances that might not be here for long. Also, if you have subscribed communities in several instances, I assume you have to follow all the different server’s rules. I’d be curious to hear other people’s thoughts in regards to picking a home instance.

Edit: Are there any restrictions to interacting with communities on other instances?

  • Wigglehard@exploding-heads.com
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    1 year ago

    Basically you go with your gut feeling but as for me, i would choose an instance that wont ban your account because you accidentally offended someone and then poof you lose all your posts, this is why I recommend exploding heads, although lemmy world is pretty good too in my opinion, but i would definitely say without a doubt that you have to say the absolutely most crazy heinous things ever to be banned from Exploding heads

  • Keep in mind your access to communities on other instances depends on other people on your instance behaving themselves. If an instance defederates with yours because they don’t like somebody’s comment, you also won’t see any posts. Don’t join any instances centered around polarizing topics unless you plan on only having discussions within local communities. Also at the moment it’s not really possible for a single instance to support much more than 100K users, so Lemmy.ml and lemmy.world don’t really want the signups.

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    I avoided the bigger ones because they seemed to be under the heaviest load and thus most buggy/quirky.

    I also wanted one to be more apolitical. So I went there first. Then that one had a multi-day outage. Then tried kbin but became flustered by its own immaturity (code wise) and struggles.

    Eventually I just built my own instance.

    @OP. Id pick an instance mostly open and federated with the larger communities. Even smaller instances are good here. The. Head to this page: https://lemmyverse.net/

    Hit the house button and type your instance url and load up on subscriptions.

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      I hadn’t considered making my own instance for private use. Not sure if that was what you meant or not. But it may be the safest way of ensuring your data doesn’t get lost. My worry with small servers is that who ever is running them might lose interest and shut down permanently. But if a server is too big, there may be disagreements that lead to de-federating. Thanks for the tips.

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        Yep. That’s exactly what I did. So I can control my backups etc. their Ansible docs are solid and work fine. I would imagine the docker are as well since the Ansible docs just initiate a remote docker install.

        I’ve done some setup and have been chewing on opening it up come July if there’s a huge flood.

        But it’s gonna be a user only instance in that case. I have no time or desire to moderate people’s nonsense in communities. Heck even the prospect of moderating reports of their nonsense in other communities isn’t really appealing.

        So the concern on smaller ones petering out, may not be too far off. Mine will likely be up for at least a year. And I will let folks know before I shut it down, if it’s opened up.

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    Honestly for the new user thinking to join just picking something, anything is all that matters.

    Each user has very little content on here right now, so if for some reason they don’t like the way things are run on the one they chose they can easily choose a different one without losing much. Profile migration (i.e. copy all your stuff to a different lemmy server) is also something coming that I’m looking forward to.

    As a sh.itjust.works user you can see almost anything in this network of websites (500+ servers) except lemmygrad and beehaw. Also the server admin here is pretty cool and seems to know what he’s doing, so I’m pretty smitten with my choice.

    As far as the likelihood of a server going down, that’s hard to say as you have no real way of knowing one will be more reliable than another at first glance. TBH I think the smaller servers in the network have the advantage here, their costs to run the server are lower since they have fewer users and less traffic. If they have the creation of new communities turned off, the space required is far less than otherwise. The main detractor with tiny servers is easily discovering whats on other servers. That’s a longer explanation why that is, but it’s like that and I’ve gone on too long already.

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      My main worry with smaller servers is that whoever is running them may lose interest and decide to shut down permanently. It does seem that the pros and cons tip in either direction as a server’s population grows.

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        I get that worry, but I honestly can’t say that I think a small server with little interest is more likely to shut down than a server with huge interest (and it’s associated hosting bills). For ex. I’m panning on deploying my own lemmy instance soon, it’s going to have signups turned off, but if I left them on I wouldn’t really care how popular my server is. The less the better imo because it becomes cheap enough for me to forget I’m admining it until update time comes around and fewer interpersonal issues to deal with because fewer users. Maybe I’m in the minority here, but becoming a huge server with a lot of users doesn’t appeal to me like at all, and having a small user base is only upsides. Once I deploy it’s going to be running for a long time.

        Edit: I should have asked if you meant user interest or low admin interest

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            So I can access the fediverse with my own domain and own my user profile. Currently my profile is owned by the sh.itjust.works server; which is fine, the admin knows what he’s doing, but if it were to ever go down, my user profile and ability to interact on the fediverse goes with it. I’m an avid selfhoster and enjoy having control over my own infrastructure, so hosting my own lemmy instance is right up my alley. I’m not interested in the headaches that come with hosting for anyone else though, as there are quite a few.

      • Captain Aggravated@sh.itjust.works
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        1 year ago

        This is one concern I have. There’s a certain utility in Reddit as an archive; there’s actually a lot of good reference material out there. Meanwhile the rest of the internet SEO’d itself to death so Google almost doesn’t work anymore, the only worthwhile results are either Youtube videos or Reddit posts.

        I don’t think I see Lemmy taking on that same permanent archive factor the way Reddit (almost) did.