• roofuskit@lemmy.world
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      Also, don’t be discouraged if you show up to these groups and there’s nobody you’d be interested in. Think of this as an investment in your social and mental health. Maybe one of the people in the group becomes a friend and introduces you to someone. Maybe someone joins the group later.

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      Biggest pro tip: if you have an interest that you want to engage in with other people, and there isn’t a club in your area for it (or the existing clubs suck), start your own club.

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      It’s worth adding another spin to this.

      Think of it as “product placement” where you are the product. The kind of person you want to meet… where are they spending their time? Wherever that is, you should be there, so they can find you.

      Think someone is really attractive when they’re doing public speaking? Go to Toastmasters. Really love someone who is competitive but good-natured? Check out a board game group. Want a fit person? Hit the gym.

      The key thing, again similar to the other commenter, is to say hi to everyone. It’s tough, especially if social activity drains you, but you can make a pattern and habits out of it. Get to know a bunch of people. Make good impressions. When it eventually gets out that you’re single, someone will be like, “so I know this person…”

      In any case, you’re awesome. Good luck finding your awesome other half

      Edit: also along the lines of product placement, make sure you’re an appealing product: good hygiene, good enough style/fashion, proper social behaviors, etc. Not saying I’m perceiving you having problems with this, but I’ve seen many people complain about not finding someone when they look, smell, and behave like they’ve been living in a sewer the past decade.