• greencactus@lemmy.world
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    6 months ago

    I think you hit the nail on the head. It is very interesting how different I (male-presenting) get treated when I wear a skirt vs trousers. The whole rest of my outfit and appearance is similar - I have the same haircut, glasses, coat, boots, backpack. But when I wear a skirt, I know that people notice me far more, and I also for some reason start getting compliments from women.

    So I dont think that’s something which only happens with men noticing women, but that skirts (especially yhe ones which are shorter and more fitting) society at large seems to associate with sexual attraction. I will be honest, it is a bit of fun to know I have so much power over peoples attention - that I can control the amount of attention on me by wearing pants vs a skirt. But I also fully agree with what you’re saying - people can wear skirts just because they like them, not because they want to be sexy to you (shocker moment).

    I know that we subconciously do it all the time, but: how do you deal with the fact that people treat you differently just based on what you’re wearing?

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      6 months ago

      I’m not so sure I DO “deal” with it. I just do mostly what I want and get annoyed at people when they get judgemental about it.

      I HATE peacocking or doing anything to show off because I hate attention, so style has always been a question I deliberately fail to answer.

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          6 months ago

          At least to more directly answer your question: I absolutely despise gendered style. You’d imagine access to the loins would be universal, but noooo, of course the more common target of desire gets the short end of the stick…

          Humans are still disgustingly simple beings. That’s genuinely how I feel about your question.