Do you read books and exercise? At times I found it to be pointless but without those things I’d truly be stuck. One of my major frustrations is not having money to do stuff or not having transport ooptions. I deal with it better now but I still need to distract myself and have long term goals even when it’s not at all realistic. Happiness isn’t a goal that you can just attain, I believe that it happens indirectly. People need purpose and other stuff first. Then happiness just happens.
I read books and train sometimes, it helps, but not so much. The main problem is that I’m sure I’m not capable of achieving anything on my own.
How old are you? It’s a dumb question, but life experience can be helpful. When I went to the gym I had a trainer. In the end I realised I could do it alone - mowing lawns, riding my bike and walking on the hills.
I’m 23 and I still live with my mom, I’m not independent and I’m very afraid of everything
I’m 35 and I’ve had multiple crappy jobs that I’ve quit, I’ve nearly been killed at work etc etc. Now I’m just sick of everything lol. It’s getting harder and harder to be independent. I’m not really afraid of anything, I like to go on offence, and I often think about how to organise to improve society. I learned not to trust or rely on anyone except myself. What are you afraid of? Maybe the future? Jobs? Landlords treating you like a dirty poor?
You should try lifting some weights. Write down the exercises, sets and repetitions every day you train. Keep at it and you will see massive progress both mentally and physically. Especially at the beginning, you will progress so fast you will look a couple pages back and see how far you’ve come.
Even if it was not on list of ideas, and you could consider it not a “real” goal, surrogate activities like finishing a book or doubling the weights you lifted last week could help you feel a sense of accomplishment in these dark times.
