I was there, I saw the thread. @TheDude, did you? It was pretty strongly in favour. Do we really need to keep waiting around to see if an instance administrated by a guy who wants to declare “cis” a slur is going to turn out okay?
https://sh.itjust.works/post/216888 for context.
So you want a safe space but not TOO MUCH OF A SAFE SPACE like Beehaw. You can’t have your cake and eat it too.
Well, after thinking about it, I don’t want to put too much labor on admins. I think it’s wise to keep more power in the hands of the user, so I’d like users to be able to block instances instead of relying on defederation. They can defederate if they want to but mostly for issues that affect the health of their own instance. And mods can mod.
Just block the community and the TWO SOLE USERS dude-person. It’s not hard. Two people are not going to “create a genocide against trans folk”. You and OP are overreacting. Use the tools you have available.