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authenticity -> real and genuine
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autonomy -> seperate individual (not enmeshed)
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curiosity -> growth mindset and learning constantly
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growth -> improving functioning and increased awareness of change and adapting to new circumstances
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peace -> absence of conflict and abnegation of other people’s drama/entitlements
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pleasure -> enjoying or benefitting from the actions I take and consequences of those I maintain relationships with
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respect -> genuine care for recognizing and upholding other’s needs where it is safe and not incompatible with your own
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reciprocity -> balanced approach to give/take and being mutually-attentive to signs of imbalance
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safety -> avoiding things, people, places, situations that hurt you or cause you to be unable to enforce the protections you need to accomodate yourself in the context
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stabillity -> expectation of consistency and balance and sustainabillity in one’s relationship with anything/anyone.
These are sort of a rough outline of mine, how about yours Lemmings? Mine aren’t exhaustive but these are the core simplest profile I could break down. Feel free to steal anything and add to your collection ;)
Love others as much as I love myself.
Action is better than reaction.
Produce more than I consume.
Avoid violence against other people, all types of violence: physical, economic, emotional, social.
Take care of the environment.
So (correct me if im off base anywhere)
love others
equality/fairness + compassion
action is better than reaction
autonomy (doing this because you need them done and not from external influence or coercion)
produce more than consumer
contribution + reciprocity (kinda conflates with equality and fairness
violence against others
reciprocity and justice
The only one you’re off on is action / reaction. That’s about doing what I ethically decide to do rather than obeying the desires of my body or my brain.
autonomy (doing this because you need them done and not from external influence or coercion)
Your example is seemingly compatible with the description I gave, autonomy means someone/thing isn’t arbitrarily pulling your strings and unduly influencing your outputs, I wasn’t pitting your ethics against your needs. I would argue that your ethics are needs in a sense altho I might not be able to necesarily vigorously defend that on a technical level for now
Autonomy is basically are you an agent or principal when it comes to your life and your abillity to control the things that belong to you. For example, your parents are not entitled to any of your body, mind, emotions, etc, they belong to you and they must not be subject to arbitrary control from anybody else, otherwise there’s almost certainly gaslighting and you’re probably dying inside a little more every time you deny yourself agency
- Serve the public trust
- Protect the innocent
- Uphold the law
Freedom, respect.
Pretty much all my other core values stem from one of those two (also important to mention that “my freedom ends where yours begins”).
How do I want to be treated?
Probably most other people want the same.
How do I feel when I’m not treated with kindness or respect?
How do I feel when I’m misunderstood or wrongly accused?
Probably most other people feel the same.
I know I’m not perfect at this. But at the end of the day, when I’m reflecting on my day’s interactions, I’m thinking of how I could have done things better. And hopefully over time I’ll be the kind of person I’d like to encounter and maybe even be friends with. That’s all we can hope for, to leave tiny breadcrumbs of positivity and to be remembered fondly.
There’s a lot of divisiveness and hostility and cognitive biases in the world today. I don’t think it needs to be this way but I also think it’s largely outside our ease to control. Holding onto and constantly reflecting upon our core values, values I believe most other people share, may help regain our control and our humanity.
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Big beats are the best
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Get high all the time
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Do the least harm while doing the most good.
Ends do not justify means.
That which can be asserted without evidence, can be dismissed without evidence.
Never attribute to malice what can be explained adequately by ignorance.
When confronting and assessing any system of belief one must always ask one self, what are the facts?
Integrity, autonomy, and the scientific method
Don’t be an asshole.
I am whatever the day wants me to be.
My core values are:
Learn everything you can
Share the knowledge you have gained
Don’t be a dick
Help out
Don’t be afraid to roll up your sleeves
Work until the job is done
And don’t fucking take yourself seriously.
Mistakes are ok, and if you can’t accept that, then fuck yourself.
I’ve never really thought about it. I may be a philosophical zombie.
Neither did I till I had the time till recently. I believe they are important to understanding problematic relationships and dynamics and yourself by extension
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Horny -> I need to cum
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Happy -> I just came
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Healthy -> I have cummed
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Mine are: treat others as you want to be treated, and have respect for other people’s opinions. But those seem to go right out the window when I’m on this forum.
You guys have values?
