- I’m a 2 on the kinsey scale; people seem to think there is just gay, straight, and bi and are less exposed to the idea of a spectrum.
- I’m passing white; part mesoamerican, always grew up knowing I was part native american then took two DNA tests and it was confirmed at least that I was part native mesoamerican.
- I have always struggled with getting a handle on my gender and biological sex whether it was my year of identifying as nonbinary or people mistaking me for a female throughout my life or my body issues around whether I am feminine or masculine in one way or another; as I cover in another post I am currently trying to wrestle mentally and emotionally with my seemingly feminine pelvic bone despite being male assigned at birth.
These issues are obscure enough to be ignored by basically everyone, so with more conservative types I have to suffer gaslighting, covert and overt abuse, and interpersonal neglect, and with more ‘liberal’ types I have to suffer a different kind of rejection wherein it is denied that my issues qualify as oppression because there are simply limits to what any one liberal is educated on.
What are some good tips for dealing with this kind of life situation?
Is this the lefty version of incels who believe they will never get a girl because they are only 5"9’ and don’t have the correct face structure?
Are you trying to be a bully?
Not really but no offense, you seem to be a bit lost in the sauce. If you are this caught up in these kinds of thought patterns you probably radiate some very strange energy to the people around you. I may or may not read too much into that but you seem like the kind of person who would trauma dump a decade of issues onto someone who’s showing even the slightest bit of interest in you. It’s exhausting for people to perform this kind of emotional labor which is why the “liberal” types as you put it may avoid you.
If you can afford it, get professional help if you don’t do therapy yet. But don’t mistake your friends or your date for a therapist.
The left welcomes the strange fyi.
Yeah you’re just being a bully.
Although their tone wasn’t the softest, they have a point.
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Weird you automatically connect gun-nut to Israel support. Also weird you look into the background of someone giving you advice.
Seems to me your issues stated in your post could be solved by looking inward not outward. Maybe the “gaslighting” you claim is actually just criticism you don’t like.
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You keep adding parts to your comment. Just make a new comment.
I’ve turned inward plenty. It’s valid that I feel gaslit. I should trust my instincts.
No the other guy effing loves Israel. You love guns. Also why are you making a big deal of me awkwardly trying to solve some issues in my life by calling it weird? Don’t you think I have a reason to be on here? You’re both being straight up bullies.
When you have to go through people’s post history and attack them for thing that have nothing to do with the conversation, you lost the argument.
What argument do you think I’m making? I posted about some things I was going through, was clearly looking for general advice (not debate), got name-called and demeaned by one person out of nowhere while others gave normal advice, tried to make the person aware that they were violating the tone set forth in the post, got attacked further, tried to fight back and what - now I’m in a debate? I didn’t sign up for a debate session or a roast. This is obviously a vulnerable post and should be pretty easy to follow suit with the other commenters who posted normally. Not everything related to constructive criticism is about debate. You can provide constructive criticism without offering debate per se.