• gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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    6 days ago

    it’s because women were historically not allowed to show signs of horniness, so instead they just try to catch someone else’s attention by being really loud and doing crazy things.

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      5 days ago

      I don’t think I understand. At all. In what way is it okay to show signs of horniness?

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          5 days ago

          well that’s great Rudolph, but could you please concentrate? We’re losing altitude fast

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              4 days ago

              This is due to their mating cycles, because in winter the bucks are only a little horny but the does cycles’ are in the shop for their annual tuneup

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        It should be at least. There are different contexts and it’s not appropiate in every context and all that, but you should still be allowed to do it in at least some contexts, like more casual, social or flirty ones.

        If you don’t show any sign of it, how can you even expect to get connection with people who want the same as you? You can’t expect people to be mind readers.

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            well from my experiences in a few rural areas i can tell you that men were historically not only allowed but expected to be assholes. i.e. if you didn’t make a lot of noise around “your girl”, you were considered weak and insufficiently manly or sth.

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    All I see is immature-horny, and I pity people stuck trying to work these issues out with those similarly-afflicted, almost and much as I do those so-afflicted and yet preyed-upon by those of us old-and-experienced-enough to have no business acknowleging such issues directly.

    As a parent, I’ve seen some shit. As a vaguely-upstanding-member-of-society, the only person I’ve told is my wife, so she can discretely steer our daughters towards keeping such private or at-least away from the notice of adults. To my surprise and relief, I’ve not had to say anything to my sons about their should-be-kept-private behaviors … they are surprisingly more discrete than I remember being capable-of at such age.

    EDIT: For most of my life, OP nailed my experience of both horniness and waking-life in general. I made for a bad example of a boy, apparently. That’s not news to me in-general, but still.

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        4 days ago

        Apparently 50% of the population is supposed to feel that way about the OP. You want me to apologize for identifying with that which should alienate? If you don’t get or understand what I said, be glad and move-on; It wasn’t a brag or boast to try to make anyone feel left-out or whatever, nor the opposite per se.

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          4 days ago

          I don’t get a notification in my inbox from that, do I? I’m trying to understand what you’re trying to say, why are you so upset 😭

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            22 hours ago

            Fair, and not so much upset as, hey, I’ve now answered this for the first person who asked, and am not re-typing it. Literally, yes, I too am replying to things via my inbox, but I’m not treating comment-replies like private messages either.

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        4 days ago

        I have regrets from my youth that I am surprised and relieved my sons haven’t replicated.

        For the rest, I’m glad I’m not a single-parent. Feigning ignorance may not be more moral than calling things out in the moment, across the generational, gender, and familial-divide(sue me if that’s a non-term, I’m not creative or motivated-enough to do better at this moment), but I believe it was less-awkward and seems to have worked-out.

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          so … your “lesson learned” is to not be awkward? did i summarize that correctly?

          if that’s your point, well, awkwardness is in the eye of the beholder.

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            I am very awkward, just no longer a problem the general-public would ever notice and much-less having to constantly keep myself in check now the hormones have … honestly, all but abandoned me, especially when needed and appropriate. Life is grand.

            EDIT: I’ve said nothing here about lessons-learned. I can breathe without magically-and-constantly-offending strangers and acquainences today, but I was so used to the alternative for so long that I’ll never get used to “fitting-in”, nor do I want to. I’ve seen what’s broadly tolerated.

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          4 days ago

          your kids didn’t inherit prion disease girl horny?

          edit: you previously mentioned daughters, did they inherit prion disease girl horny?

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            22 hours ago

            None did, somehow, just inappropriate behaviors in company /not-being-as-discrete-about-none-of-my-business-as-they-thought-they-were-being, and all, save one maybe, have grown out of even that.