• fisch@lemmy.world
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    21 hours ago

    order her own food

    Do Americans know you can cook your own food at home?

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    1 day ago

    You know you’re lonely when you start looking at people like this and rationalize yourself into by remembering you’ve dated worse. 🫪

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      Also don’t meet enough people to actually start something? I spend too much time home messing with xomputera, u?

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        Basically… I have and always have had few friends. Some of them I can only see a few times a year because they live far away…

        I rarely go out, unless it’s for a reason and it’s usually a situation where you don’t meet new people (groceries, cinema, bureaucracy, …).

        But for me it’s not a problem: i love being alone! It just means for me it’s very unlikely to meet new people and even more unlikely to find a significant other!

        (and yes I love messing with my computer(s), bedrottimg, playing some videogames and all that femcel stuff 😏)

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          Yeah, we’re basically tit for tat on that. I embraced being alone a bit too much and now I’m without a support system. I do have a some people I can meet nearby but defo none I’d call friends.

          And yeah, I am sending this msg while also bedrotting, playing videogames and working on FOSS software.

          Tho, I’m a cishet dude so just malecel stuff

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            Yeah… and covid made it worse, because for the first time in my life during lockdown I could live the life I wanted, and it was normal, but then it ended and I still struggle to get back to “normality”…

            And yeah, I am sending this msg while also bedrotting, playing videogames and working on FOSS software.

            I’ve always wanted to (but never actually did) work on foss software… But I work as a depressed software developer in a project that I’m really hating! :D

            Anyways…

            Tho, I’m a cishet dude so just malecel stuff

            You would have been banned for this in the femcel subreddit, but I guess this community is less strict 😁

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              19 hours ago

              Oh yeah, we wouldn’t be having this convo on some place that blocked me for my gender/sexuality. Anytime a community like that graces my feed I block it shortly after.

              About FOSS yeah, I just host my stuff on codeberg (joined cuz of the anti ai stuff) and make my own shit for anyone to see, did a couple commits for some other projects but I’m very into doing my own thing and I’m basically self-taught so my code ain’t the best.

              About working on something you hate? Yeah, I get it. I work also as a programmer and I hated every moment I had to dig up someone else’s C/AL code (proprietary Microsoft ERP coding language).

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                About working on something you hate? Yeah, I get it. I work also as a programmer and I hated every moment I had to dig up someone else’s C/AL code (proprietary Microsoft ERP coding language).

                See, the thing is that I don’t care about stuff like that. The problem is management.

                rant incoming you can skip

                I need good managers to function well and it’s been two years now that management is shit. I’m at a point where just the thought of opening the IDE makes me sick. I know I just have to suck it for a little bit then this project will be over and hopefully I will be put in something better. I don’t really want to look for another job. Sorry for the rant

                About FOSS yeah, I just host my stuff on codeberg (joined cuz of the anti ai stuff) and make my own shit for anyone to see, did a couple commits for some other projects but I’m very into doing my own thing and I’m basically self-taught so my code ain’t the best.

                Oh so we are in a similar position. I’ve created lots of tools that were useful to me (and I think only to me in the world) and released them as foss, but I’ve never contributed code to a big foss project. I want to but I just never did.

                Oh yeah, we wouldn’t be having this convo on some place that blocked me for my gender/sexuality. Anytime a community like that graces my feed I block it shortly after.

                Don’t get me wrong, they have their own reasons for doing that on the subreddit, and I think they have a right to do it – for example an AA meeting is not the place for a non-alcoholic. But at the same time, being too close of a group leads to radicalisation, and that group is radical. Some things may start as a joke, but then some people start believing them… it can be dangerous…