This is the right take, in my view.

We are at one of the most polarized times in history, and now more than ever, we need to try and offset that polarization. We’ve already seen the consequences of a lot of one-issue voting in this space. The same is true of one-issue opinion building.

Hear a joke you don’t agree with? Don’t laugh. But speaking up, walking out, etc. for that one joke makes you look intolerant. Flip the tables, and you aren’t really doing anything different. There has been this push to speak up every time, but it is at odds with the way humans actually respond to things and how we think about issues that may be introduced in that way.

Hear a bunch of jokes in the same routine you don’t like? That’s a different beast, but crucially, your reasoning for then speaking up will be much richer and more informed than “I didn’t like that joke”.