I’ve only used tinder before and the dude I met there ghosted me after he and his partner broke up. My husband has been encouraging me to look again and I’m feeling a bit better about myself lately so I’m debating checking something out and seeing who might be interested. I’m a post op trans woman for reference.

  • deluxe@lemmynsfw.com
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    4 months ago

    Just a reminder that dating apps don’t want you to succeed.

    That would mean you stop using their app.

    Your success and their success are in direct conflict.

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    No such thing. The services for dating are all bot driven now. People end up paying for a service that simply isn’t as advertised.

    Now, hookup services ala grindr, they can do better at finding real people, but it’s hit or miss about making connections that matter. Last I talked to anyone, adult friend finder is kinda decent, but you still run into it being more about hookups than any mid to long term connections. But, since you describe a pretty open situation with your partner, focusing on something that’s going to be non monogamous friendly like that is likely to be a better choice.

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      4 months ago

      I checked AFF and… I’m not sure if I found the proper website or a kick off. You can’t do anything with a free account right?

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    4 months ago

    I found Boo. It has more non-standard people on it. I tend to say it has more “weirdos” and, being a weirdo, it has more of what I’m looking for. It also has more friends and not just dating.

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    From your description of both you and him having spouses, I’d suppose, Feeld would not be the worst to try.

    Having said that: they’re all crap. I don’t know that it was ever any better (at least for people desiring to meet with female presenting matches). I’ve tried a fair number of apps, and some have the features, others have the demographic, and none have both. That’s my experience.