• De_Narm@lemmy.world
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    5 months ago

    I don’t think that’s a great idea either, these public proposals create a lot of pressure and assuming she’d decline anyway her gold medal moment would be ruined.

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      5 months ago

      I don’t get this… Its weird to me that people would propose without knowing their SO would say yes…

      With my wife, we’d both spoken about it and knew we wanted to get married one day. The proposal was more a formality than anything… It feels like an odd thing to be surprised with and have to give an immediate answer on…

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          5 months ago

          I wish I had the ability to be more concise. You said exactly what I needed to say but didn’t ramble like I did. Beautifully worded.

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            5 months ago

            dude if you think that was rambling you should try to talk to me for five minutes. and see how you can get out of it twenty minutes later.

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        5 months ago

        To be fair I’ve heard of scenarios where they absolutely 100% thought they’d say yes , they talked about it before. and then in the moment she says no. Things can change in the moment. Though I’m sure those are the exception.

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      5 months ago

      That’s assuming they haven’t already discussed marriage and basically agreed in principle. I think modern day proposals should be much more of the “what were you waiting for? Yes!” variety rather than “what are you thinking? No!”