Breath_Of_The_Snake [they/them, comrade/them]

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  • If the interviewer brings up personal life/trying to get to k ow you stuff be totally willing to expand on your interests. The interviewer is filtering k personal skills. Simply being able to talk about a hobby is a form of bridge building between people they seem to value. Create a script. Imagine a person asks you about your free time, have conversations in your head with the fictional person.

    Do the same for talking points related to your resume. Everything you put on there is a potential question they’ll ask. For example, put that you have experience with security and they are you to ask about what you’ve done or know regarding that. Pre-write an answer.

    My best advice is thus: pretend to be a jacksss gatekeeper and read your application from that perspective. Write down your critique. In your head argue against that and write it down. Memorize those talking points.





  • The thing I would say to this is: I’ve had times of pause/avoidance/genuine “I can’t be near you” with all of the friends I consider chosen family. It’s not just a romantic thing. It’s a deep relationship thing. If it survives, it’s deep. The depth comes from putting in the work.

    Sometimes it just happens and the way to preserve to closeness worked towards is to recognize the present moment is both fleeting and harmful to the long-term bond (in that taking a long view is more productive)

    I’m in one rn tbh, I have zero doubt it’ll work out eventually the bond is gonna pick up, just had a pause in it. it’s not even romantic, I just bared too much of my soul and need to be alone a bit. The man saved my life once, so not even “<my name> life debt loyalty” is immune to needing distance for a bit. Breaks can be a healthy reset if not taken to extreme. Ultimately, you control your mind and heart. That which causes doubt as to whether this is viable is malleable.

    Disclaimer: I’m a fucking dumbass, for real no shit. If you are still talking terms with one of her friends trust the friends advice.