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Cake day: July 6th, 2023

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  • Depending on what you’re looking for “girly” could fit.

    Ex. If a macho man is a “manly man” (which I don’t think is entirely accurate because I think the concept of machismo is much more complex than that), then a “girly girl” would kind of be the equivalent?

    Alternately, “femme” can be used to mean kind of the same thing but more respectfully since “girly” has a rather childish connotation. “Ultra femme” or “High femme” can be used to describe someone that strives for or is the peak of feminity but then… defining what that means is a whole other thing that’s probably just as complex as defining Macho/ Machismo.

    Not sure if this helps but I wish you luck in your search for the word.














  • I’ve written a poem, and a couple stories/ novel length things and I’d say I’m happy with all of them.

    The poem I look back on and think it’s a bit pretentious but it’s a poem and I think all poetry suffers from a bit of “I have the best words” type pretentiousness. It’s deeply meaningful to me and perfectly captures the snapshot of the moment I wrote it so overall I’m happy it exists even if only me and one other person have ever really experienced it.

    Story wise, I have a couple of fanfics I’m varying levels of proud of. There are two unfinished ones for which I’m reserving judgement, two I’m exceedingly happy with and then there’s six or seven more that I’m like “yeah, those may not have been great but they were definitely good”

    The one unfinished project is a trilogy I’m two books into and I think this project will either be my Magnum Opus or a gargantuan effort for little pay off but I won’t know the answer for another year or two.

    Luckily, I enjoy the actual writing part so whether I’m happy with it as a whole doesn’t really matter right now but I hope it turns out to be something I’m proud of. If anything, I’ll have to admire the effort I’ve put in but I hope I can also admire the finished product at the end.


  • I mean, you really are in a tough spot because all these emotions around this desire for connection: the want, pain, grief, anger, sadness are all the ways in which your body/ brain are screaming “I need this” so I can see how the obvious solution would be “I just have to stop wanting it” so that I can make the screaming stop

    but I think what the original comment (and potentially some other comments) are saying is that you maybe have to turn toward the, listen to it, honor it (in a practical sense maybe get therapy or find other social services to try and meet the need in the interim) and then tell yourself that you are going to get your body/ brain what it needs, you’re just going to do in a different way. You’re going to work on things that matter to you, and move forward down that path, instead of the one you are currently on.

    It’s not easy to listen though. Listening means facing a lot of the places that fear comes from. It’s all just very hard and I sincerely hope you find what you’re looking for.