Lumelore (She/her)

I am a trans woman and a computer nerd :3

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Cake day: 2023年6月9日

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  • I always go for D asap which ends up being C. I don’t want to have a superficial conversation with someone I may never see again. For some reason I am more commonly asked “Any plans for the weekend?” and I always just say “nope” which usually ends the conversation there. One time someone hit me with a “Any plans for the holiday?” which really threw me off because I didn’t have a canned response and I said “I’m picnicking” and I just felt so awkward and embarrassed that I froze and felt like covering my face.







  • I’m Autistic and I struggle with driving too. There’s too many things to pay attention to and it overwhelms my brain. It took me 5 tries to get my license. I genuinely would not drive if I didn’t live in the US and had access to reliable public transport. I cope with this by being very cautious. I have a hard time determining speed and distance so sometimes I will sit at a stop sign for notably longer than I need to which upsets the people behind me but I think it’s the only reason I haven’t gotten in an accident yet. I hate how car brained people can be. There’s nothing wrong with not being able to drive and lots of people in non-car brained countries who don’t.





  • Did Dominic date James pre-transition and then break up once he came out?

    If so, he may have internalized homophobia and doesn’t want to recognize that he dated a boy. He may want to think “James is actually a girl, so I am not gay” and that’s why he deadnames and misgenders him.

    If not, then I’m not sure why he thinks that way. If you want help explaining it to him, my experience as a trans woman is that I’ve always had a girl brain despite being amab. Yes, I used to present masculinely but I was still operating with a feminine brain. Swedish fish put into a sour patch kids box are still swedish fish even though the exterior packaging was incorrect, or in other words, my brain is and always has been a girl’s brain despite being put into boy’s packaging.

    Also I appreciate you trying to increase others’ understanding of trans people btw :)


  • I pretty much just sat at my desk, spaced out, and disassociated through most of grade school. In first grade I got detention for having a snowball fight, except I never did fight, and I was just picking up the snow to eat it (I was obsessed with eating snow as a kid). I was so confused and after that I felt like I couldn’t play or engage with anything, so I began to disengage as well.

    It’s only recently that I’ve realized disassociating and disengaging have made me very lonely and are no longer helpful to me and I’ve started trying to put more effort into socializing, but I’m also not that great at it.




  • I tend to miss things people say if all I have is their voice, so I am definitely better at reading. If I am focusing on comprehending them it reduces my ability to remember what they are telling me, so I too do much better with written instructions.

    I took 5 years of French in highschool and I could understand my teacher just fine. Then when I graduated and wanted to continue learning French I would listen to French videos in the background, but I realized I was missing a lot of things, so I went to rewind the video, and then suddenly noticed it was so much easier for me to understand them if I could lip read.

    Then I started to remember how when I was kid, and my parents would have me call a relative for whatever reason, and sometimes I would just hear garbled english, and I’d be so nervous and not know what to do, so I’d just say “yeah” and hope that sufficed. This still happens to me, although not as much, but it’s caused me to become phobic of phone calls.

    Now that I’ve realized how crucial lip reading is for me to understand speech, I now use only resources where I can actually see the person speaking if I want to practice that.

    (Also subtitles are awesome.)



  • 100% some people are genuinely shitty people and their behavior would happen even if society wasn’t misogynist, classist, etc.

    My goal wasn’t to alleviate them from responsiblity. I do not believe it is their fault for growing up in a society that is against them, but it is their fault for not thinking crtically and choosing to perpetuate that hate once they are an adult.

    Also I was thinking of abuse on a societal level, not an individual level, but that does contribute. (I probably could have used a better word. I do agree that abuse implies individual rather than societal.) I find the fact that so much misogyny and other hate exists within the overton window to be repulsive. Trump said “grab her by the pussy,” (plus a bunch of other terrible things) and got into the oval office not once, but twice, which shows that society has a major problem with finding hate acceptable. Why people find that hate acceptable I imagine varies between demographics.

    I still do stand by my previous comment, which is my thoughts on why specifically women voted the way they did, although I agree it has room to be expanded on more.

    I think a major part of it is that people simply aren’t thinking things through enough. They should be questioning society’s misogyny, racism, etc, but for some reason they choose to accept it as normal.