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  • I’m going to say the average would be 7.

    I definitely had some -7 days, but by and large it was a good childhood.

    I was required to do chores and help out around the house. However, I didn’t have too many “wants” that I couldn’t have.

    I’m fairly spoiled among my peers, but not in a “doesn’t have to work, thinks the world revolves around me” way. Always well fed and clothed. Always had a home to live in.

    My parents paid for my college, so I graduated without any student loans. They also gave me and my wife the deposit when we bought our house. They continued helping with my kids’ college education, covering half of their expenses as well.

    There was some abuse. Honestly, it didn’t amount to more than what just about every kid my age went through. Horrifying today, but run of the mill back then.






  • Oldest was told every day he was going to be murdered while walking home. That continued until he dropped his bag and told his bully, “today’s the day, put up or shut up.”

    Youngest was blocking a bully to give her friends a chance to get away. He tried to kick her and got the karate demonstration he was asking for.

    Middle child was harassed and mocked for five years from Middle School through high school. He spent years begging them to stop, because he didn’t want to hurt them. He finally told his bully he wasn’t going to put up with it anymore and warned him that if he said another word, he was going to punch him in the face. The bully opened his mouth once more, and my son closed it. No one ever said anything again.

    Teachers did nothing. Schools did nothing.

    Here is the quote they recited in every karate class:

    “I come to you with only Karate, Empty Hands. I have no weapons, but should I be forced to defend myself, my principles or my honor, should it be a matter of life or death, of right or wrong, then here are my weapons, Karate, my Empty Hands.”

    — Ed Parker

    I see no conflict between the teachings and their actions. They have a right to defend themselves against harassment, and if asking for it to stop doesn’t work, escalation is necessary. All the bullies had the opportunity to just walk away. Some took it, some didn’t.