ObamaSama [he/him]

On one hand seeing the absolute depths humanity can sink to makes me want to join him but on the other hand I feel it’s worth sticking around to see just how bad it gets

Same energy as saying “I make the best ramen” when it’s instant noodles with an egg thrown in. My heart goes out to all the grown ass people with such limited culinary experiences they’re that easily impressed. Just use fresh ingredients to make things from scratch with your partner, it’s a blast! The heavily processed ready made slop is only needed when you dump all the responsibility on one person

Mutual interests are the best way! You can skip past awkward small talk and just chat about something you’re both interested in. There are loads of social hobbies that are great ways to meet people, just pick one that you’re interested in and try to find a local group for it. I’ve met some great people from board game meetups, running groups, scuba diving, protests, you name it.

It’s also incredibly easy to make friends with other expats if you’re traveling in other countries, they’re usually also lonely and directionless so they’re much more open to hanging out with randos. Staying in a hostel is pretty much a guaranteed way to meet some cool people! Locals are also more forgiving if you’re a little “eccentric” since there isn’t the same expectation of following all the unspoken social norms that some ND people can struggle with. Obviously don’t be an obnoxious tourist with no respect for local customs but like, you have some extra wiggle room in interpersonal interactions. I know travel is a very privileged thing but I highly recommend it if you’re able to.

Last year I was incredibly depressed with literally one friend and almost never left the house. I’m now a bona fide social butterfly making new friends every time I go out, you CAN make that change. It’s a matter of getting out there and putting yourself in situations where you can meet people. It does take courage and a willingness to be open and vulnerable to others, just taking that first step can be scary. However, I’ve realized that people are way less judgmental and cliquey than I previously thought. If you approach people with genuine respect and sincerity they’re not going to give a fuck about all the silly little things you’re insecure about and will usually reciprocate that same respect.

That’s the most concerning part of this post, what adult eats PB&J for a real meal? I can understand it as a “there’s literally no other food in the house” thing occasionally but damn. Am*ricans really do eat the unhealthiest shit by choice

Is Mahjong soul easy to get into? I’ve tried a few browser versions but they all automate so much I can’t wrap my head around scoring. My buddy took me to a mahjong parlor yesterday and all the old Japanese guys basically told us to fuck off and practice more first lmao

I’ve somehow never even considered that my massive increase in caffeine intake over the past few months may be contributing to my increased anxiety. Thanks for the idea fren, I will try cutting it out to see if that helps any

Yup came to post the markus, most comfortable chair I’ve had and I’ve tried all the fancy herman miller and gamer chairs. It’s especially nice if you’re tall, most chairs require me to slouch a lot for proper head/neck support but this one is perfect for me at 6’2”. I don’t think it looks particularly “office” either, it’s just a very minimalist simple mesh back in muted colors.

I’ve met some really good people through dating apps but it really is a numbers game. I’d say that on average out of 100 matches I only have 4-5 conversations that last longer than a few days before one of loses interest and stops replying. It can be pretty disheartening to churn through so many people but from my experience it pays to be picky. I’ve only ever been on 5 dates through dating apps but they all turned into relationships because I didn’t waste my time with anyone I didn’t feel a mutual connection with.

Stick with it and eventually you’ll find someone, just gotta be patient. Also it depends on where you are but I’ve found bumble to be the best as the girls on there are usually much more serious

going back to clear some starter quests after you hit endgame and get bored

wearing a mask because you care about the health and well being of others

wearing a mask because of social anxiety and neurotic self esteem issues

You’d think more “leftists” would at least do it for the latter reason, I love not showing my face in public

I tried doing that and the fuckers sent my account to a collections agency that hounded me nonstop for months and damaged my credit score. All over like $40 they refused to drop because my written cancellation was submitted by my ex to cancel both of our memberships rather than me personally submitting it

I woke up to half a dozen “sky is falling” RH notifications, saw my portfolio down 10%, shrugged, and went on with my day. I imagine it would be pretty stressful if I actually had money or, god forbid, open call options. Hooray for not having any real stake in the capital market, let it all burn 🔥

Kinda wild how many Americans’ retirement plans and long term financial stability are completely dependent on the whims of the market tho, genuinely disgusting how siding with the capitalists is presented as the only option if you want to be allowed to retire. Like yeah dude let me just give you my money and tie my future to the well being of the market with the promise that maybe I can get a tiny drop of that stolen surplus in the future. If the market isn’t crashing while I’m trying to retire of course. Glad an entire generation doesn’t have a brutal case of Stockholm syndrome because of it

My ex and I had a rule to never order anything from a restaurant we could make at home. Quite conveniently, she was an incredible cook that could make damn near anything and I’m not too bad myself. The only time we’d ever eat out was for birthdays/anniversaries or sushi once every few months or so. Spending $50-$100 for us both at “fancy” places felt like an exorbitant luxury but I realize now that’s not far off from what many people spend regularly on meals.

The combination of very rarely eating out and then living outside the US when I did eat out slightly more resulted in me being absolutely shocked at prices recently. I went with a friend to a greasy small town diner and was in utter disbelief at $14 for an omelette. He assured me that it was pretty normal and it like short circuited my brain. I just couldn’t comprehend paying that much for a few eggs prepared so simply, easily 10x the cost of the ingredients. Paying that kind of premium regularly, especially scaled up on more expensive dishes, is so far outside of what I consider reasonable or even somewhat financially responsible that I’m shocked anyone does it. But the fact that the diner was PACKED with a line out the door made me feel like I was the one that’s out of touch with reality