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Cake day: May 25th, 2023
  • okbin@kbin.socialtoNo Stupid Questions@lemmy.world•I personally dont but why do you think ppl care so much about being downvoted on internet chat forums?
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    1 year ago

    downvotes REALLY bother me. why it bothers me personally: i have severe mental health issues (to the point of disability). due to how i grew up, i heavily internalized being and accepting that i’m always bad and horrible and wrong and punishing myself for it. when i get criticized or downvoted - even if it’s silly - i feel HORRIBLE, because obviously i MUST’VE done something VERY BAD and VERY WRONG and i must be PUNISHED and i must CORRECT. and it’s even more frustrating when i don’t know what to correct. bonus, i have autism and adhd, so i can say things considered “wrong” and not know why, but people won’t explain it to me because apparently i should magically know. and i don’t want to be a bad person, but now i’m suddenly a bad person and i don’t know what to do about it.

    this is just ME. i don’t think it applies to most people. and inb4 “bruh it’s just a downvote, it’s not that deep, touch grass” AGREED. BIG AGREE. but if you understand anything about psychology, it can take a very long time to undo stuff that’s so deeply ingrained from childhood, if it can be undone at all. i have actually heavily improved in this area in terms of recognizing i’m not necessarily wrong and rarely need to be punished, but the emotional reaction sadly has not changed much.

    also, some (not all) people just seem to use downvotes as a personal attack, and that’s just annoying as hell. i think people can relate to this much more.

    i try hard not to downvote, because i don’t think it’s necessary most of the time. people seem to downvote the silliest things…

  • okbin@kbin.socialtoLinux@lemmy.ml•What disros works on low end, slow, very outdated pc's?
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    1 year ago

    since you’re a noob, idk if this will be very helpful to you, but

    i used debian with awesomewm on an old pentium 4 from 2004-2005 and it was pretty fast! like a modern low-end computer. but you’d have to configure it to be noob-friendly/have patient users. i don’t mind it cuz i enjoy tinkering, but i imagine it could be very frustrating for other people.

    i’d give you my awesomewm config (i configured it to be super minimal, but also familiar, as i was trying to create a desktop environment that could be used on older machines), but unfortunately my desktop no longer has a power supply, so i can’t access it :')