The whole point of the trans movement, is recognising that beyond a small number of very specific biological truths, that the majority of gendered experiences are entirely social.

i.e. being viewed as masculine or feminine, is as arbitrary as deciding whether you’re goth or emo or punk

So I guess what I’m saying, is that from your post, I’m sensing that you’re finding that strict societal don’t really resonate with you. You don’t feel especially stereotypically feminine or stereotypically masculine, or perhaps sometimes you feel a bit of both, or some other combination.

And at the tame time, you’re saying “please don’t tell me I’m trans” - and frankly, that makes perfect sense to me, because if the whole problem is rejecting labels in general, why would you want another one?

Not that I know anything, but it seems to me that you might try just letting go of the idea of gender being something that matters to you completely.

Like, personally I’m not punk, or emo, or alt, or goth, or country. Sometimes I listen to these genres, sometimes I don’t. Sometimes I’ll dress and express myself with hints of these genres, sometimes I don’t. Mostly I’m not really any of them.

And if someone says “do you like punk music”, I can say “Yeah sometimes” or “I’m not in the mood”, or “Oh yeah, lets do it”. And if they say “Yeah but you’re not really punk”, I don’t really mind one way or another. I don’t have to be anything really.

I don’t see why you couldn’t approach gender the same way. I don’t see why you have to commit to, or justify your specific interpersonal or social choices. If one day you want to do something that’s viewed as super masculine, cool! if another day you reject certain masculine things, or even the same masculine thing - that’s cool too! And that doesn’t even need to make you “trans”.

Beyond specific medical/biological concerns, most of this stuff is just words, and it’s all made up.

That’s actually surprisingly common.

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I’m probably going to be on both.

It was pretty surprising how easy it was to create an account and a not-to-bad feed. All of the communities I like don’t yet exist on lemmy, but there’s nothing preventing them from starting up, and the structure is very good.

Reddit has already created a permanent scar in it’s user base. This event has seeded a minority of users on lemmy/kbin/whatever. And there will be more again on July 1 when the various 3rd party apps stop working.

Even if reddit just stops there and doesn’t do anymore detrimental things to it’s user base that scar is permanent. There’s enough users on here now to be self-sustaining for a few small communities at least. And anytime in the future that reddit pulls some shit - which given their corporate structure, it looks like they will - more users are going to look for alternatives and many will end up here.

For someone like me - that’ll just mean more time here and less time on reddit, until eventually it’ll be only on here - just like Digg, just like Fark, just like all the other ones.

Man, he’s so professional. He gives answers that I’d expect a very experienced PR person to give, yet he’s just a single-man operation developer.

I think people get way too caught up on technical optimisation issues with a language.

The reason a language, programming or otherwise, catches on is ultimately based on how many people use the language. So the lower the barrier to entry, they more people who will use it. PHP has a pretty low barrier to entry to creating a website (however simple/bad) and it has a lot of cultural momentum. I don’t see PHP going away anytime soon.

Okay this federated stuff is really growing on me.

The idea that you can sign up on any server, and still have a feed from many different servers is pretty cool.

If history has taught me anything - I would say that means that kbin will persist forever.