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  • xeger@lib.lgbttoLGBTQ+@lemmy.blahaj.zoneHow old were you?
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    1 year ago

    I began to question my sexuality early – somewhere around age 10. That process continued for a full decade until, at age 20, I admitted to myself that I was 100% gay with no qualifications.

    One factor acting against me in my search for self knowledge was my limited vocabulary; society – or at least the part of it I was attuned to – didn’t have expressive language beyond “gay, straight or bi” and it was hard to decide whether I could wear any of those unsubtle labels. I also had to deal with some internalized homophobia and a lack of queer role models or acquaintances in my life.

    If it’s any help, I can see, in retrospect, that I spent too much time considering how to label myself and not enough time considering how I felt and how I wanted to act on those feelings. It is only by knowing our feelings and acting on them, repeatedly, that we truly come to understand who are are; how we identify is, in some ways, secondary to those concerns.