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RNAi [he/him]@hexbear.net to Chapotraphouse@hexbear.netEnglish · 1 年前

Damn,

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Damn,

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RNAi [he/him]@hexbear.net to Chapotraphouse@hexbear.netEnglish · 1 年前
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  • CyborgMarx [any, any]@hexbear.net
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    The replies are so angry lmao

    “how would your dad feel knowing you’re polyamorous?” well he had two secret families so probably just jealous

    Get their ass lets-fucking-go

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      Jesus, two secret families just seems like a lot of work.

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        Hold on so this guy had three different families at the same time?

        What’s the fucking point of living three lies

        • CrawlMarks [he/him]@hexbear.net
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          That was how middle class boomers did unethical nonmenogamy. Cause like, the secret families probably had hobbies as well. Or they just found people who enjoyed not having a boomer man around as head of household. Thinking about it, that sounds preferable to alot of boomer relationships I hear about

          • TraschcanOfIdeology [they/them, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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            Imagine being able to provide for your family, let alone two.

            • CrawlMarks [he/him]@hexbear.net
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              Boomers played the game of life on easy mode

        • Balefirex [he/him]@hexbear.net
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          Yea I don’t even want to live one life

        • CarmineCatboy2 [he/him]@hexbear.net
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          at that point i think it was a competition

        • TraschcanOfIdeology [they/them, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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          Polygamists are something else, man.

      • IMF_DOOM [she/her]@hexbear.net
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        My ex-uncle had like three or four and ngl he was pretty good at managing it all for decades so no one knew until it suddenly all fell apart five or six years ago

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    What’s the point of a polycule if you all live in different places? Damn, that’s so much money wasted on rent.

    • TraschcanOfIdeology [they/them, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      I don’t necessarily want to live with someone I’m dating, at least in the early stages? Not all polycules are super committed relationships, or not everyone in the polycule is ay the same stage.

      • LaughingLion [any, any]@hexbear.net
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        its not my lifestyle but from the few people irl i know who do the poly thing its generally like this there is a primary couple and then like 2 or 3 people who are part of it but those people are a bit more casual it seems… i dunno

    • RNAi [he/him]@hexbear.netOP
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      What’s the point of a polycule if you all live together?

      • CrawlMarks [he/him]@hexbear.net
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        Saves on rent and easier access to leftovers. As a polyamorous person myself there is an aspect where you appreciate being part of the destruction of the standard liberal American relationship model as well.

        • RNAi [he/him]@hexbear.netOP
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          I enjoy my family but I also enjoy being alone

          • keepcarrot [she/her]@hexbear.net
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            I enjoy being alone, but I don’t enjoy it as much as the 50% of my pay cheque that would otherwise be going to rent

            • RNAi [he/him]@hexbear.netOP
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              :yea:

          • LaughingLion [any, any]@hexbear.net
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            ive been living with my wife for like 20 years i couldnt imagine not having someone in another room i couldnt have a quick adhd stim where i have to run in there and tell them the interesting (to me) thing i just heard real quick like im 5 years old

            youd think 20 years of her sighing and pausing her tv show to hear me out (and not be interested in it all) would have driven her away by now but this is our routine and im not changing at this point in my life so

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            Can relate. For a while I was going literal months without getting an hour (even a minute )alone at the place. Both my roommates finally held some stable work over the holidays and it was amazing.

            • RNAi [he/him]@hexbear.netOP
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              Did you had your own room at least?

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                Thankfully yes, though I can’t always keep it closed because my cat gets nosy, then loses interest, then gets nosy again. I can ride the high I got from having 5 hours to myself last month, but it can be really needling to live with introverts that work part time.

                Might plan out a camping trip in the spring just to get away from people.

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            deleted by creator

            • RNAi [he/him]@hexbear.netOP
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              Alright will undelete

              • CrawlMarks [he/him]@hexbear.net
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                I think the bit was better with it deleted

    • GrosMichel [none/use name]@hexbear.netBanned
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      Removed by mod

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      Removed by mod

  • NotLuigi [they/them]@hexbear.net
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    Wouldn’t you just pick up whoever’s closest first? Like plan out a route to pick up everyone as quickly as possible?

    • OperationOgre [he/him, they/them]@hexbear.net
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      No you have to choose who you love the most

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        dijkstra’s horniest path

        • crime [she/her, any]@hexbear.net
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          if it’s a sapphic polycule, call that dykstra’s algorithm

          • TomBombadil [he/him, she/her]@hexbear.net
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            If it’s gay men Dickstras

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            Huh. Dijkstra is a Dutch name.

            IJ/ij is a single letter ÿ but typed on a typical keyboard.

            The Dutch word for (water management structure) dyke is dijk.

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              there’s a reason why his was my favorite algorithm when i was in college hexbear-lesbian

          • T34_69 [none/use name]@hexbear.net
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            Damn catgirl-salute

      • xj9 [they/them, she/her]@hexbear.net
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        gods, can you imagine? like bitch I’m driving around in a fire picking y’all bottoms up, if you’re third its because I gotta drive in a god damn circle to pick all y’all up. second, do you not have car? in fucking LA? (hypothetically, cuz I don’t have bitches and I don’t have a car)

    • AntiOutsideAktion [he/him]@hexbear.net
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      Baby, baby, you got it all wrong. I used a shortest path algorithm.

    • comrade_pibb [comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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      Traveling Salestop

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      one’s exactly 6ft to ur left, another 6ft to ur right. two 200lb pieces of debris fall on both in the same position. both have equal chances of survival. who you running to, the cynical yet passionate she/they with short red hair and a warm smile, or the fierce yet tenderhearted enby who plays guitar and will always be your shoulder?

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        I don’t like this version of Spiderman

  • Tomboymoder [she/her, pup/pup's]@hexbear.net
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    That’s kind of sad

    • NotThatKindOfFedPosting [she/her]@hexbear.net
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      lGPL licensing of your intentionally buggy djikstra implementation to deflect from the fact that yes you did pick favorites

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    As an aside there are alot of break up posts getting posted on Tik Tok today over the fires

    • RNAi [he/him]@hexbear.netOP
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      Why? People dump their partners if they don’t have a house anymore?

      Hmm, I wouldn’t be surprised if it was that

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        Alot of relationships can’t handle a day’s worth of stress or couples see how their counterpart behaves in emergencies for the first time and people get the ick

        At least that seems to be the common pattern for the videos I’ve watched

        • AOCapitulator [they/them, she/her]@hexbear.net
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          any good ones to share?

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          This was also true for corona, tons of people suddenly realizing that they can’t stand each other if they’re together in one place 24/7

  • AOCapitulator [they/them, she/her]@hexbear.net
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    I mean, surely you would decide the order based on location and dangerous areas right? Like? If you’re the farthest one and you get picked up last that makes sense?

    Doesn’t seem like that was the situation for her in this case tho based on tone

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      Yeah, that was my first thought. Triage but for picking people up in the polycule

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        No. Those with the biggest, jiggliest boobs or lowest hanging sacks get picked up first. No exceptions.

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