A Texas man who kidnapped a 13-year-old girl in San Antonio and sexually assaulted her multiple times while driving her to Southern California last year pleaded guilty to a federal kidnapping charge Friday as part of a plea agreement, the US Attorney’s Office for the Central District of California said.
Steven Robert Sablan, 62, abducted the girl at gunpoint on or about July 6, 2023, in San Antonio and “engaged in sexual activity” with her while driving her to Long Beach, California, the plea agreement states.
“At the time of the crime, Sablan had no legal custody or familial relationship to the victim,” the US Attorney’s Office for the Central District of California said in a news release.
This has gone from funny to frustrating.
The people who need to hear this literally don’t fucking care and will just ignore it.
It doesn’t matter how many Christians are caught grooming and diddling little kids, they’ll keep blaming it on trans people anyway and keep getting away with it anyway because it’s a fucking cult that has rejected anything that isn’t GroupThink.
Repeating “but were they a drag queen” in our little echo chambers is surely cathartic, but in the end, it’s still an uphill battle against these fucking religious freaks, because they don’t care what is true and what isn’t. We should have been aware of how little they cared about the truth when they decided Sky Daddy was speaking to them in tongues. Should have been the first fucking clue these asshats aren’t living in fucking reality. They were primed by religion to reject anything outside of the cult.
Oh! This is the thing I’ve been reading about, with how people change their minds.
It turns out that for everyone, belief is partly to largely social. The brain values in-group membership and security much like how it values physical security. When you say something to someone that threatens their group security, the brain reacts similarly to if a bear had just walked into the room. There’s no cool analyzing of facts.
So you have someone who’s anti-trans and hangs out with their anti-trans church, and that’s a big part of their community. That’s their friends, family, and support. They get together, sing songs, and trash talk trans folks. Now, you come up to them and say “Hey, trans folks are people like anyone else and don’t deserve to be treated badly.” You’re an outsider. The brain looks at this like siding with you risks being ejected from the safety of the group to be eaten by wolves. That’s uncomfortable. So they make up excuses to resolve this. You’re a liar. You’re wrong. You don’t know what you’re talking about. You don’t understand it’s about protecting children. This is an exception that doesn’t prove anything. It was a false flag operation. Excuses. Excuses to protect group membership and resolve cognitive dissonance.
People are complex and hold many memberships simultaneously. This person belongs to a church, but they also have a family, and they may be in a political party, and a sports team. And the church may belong to a larger group like Christianity more generally.
One of the ways to get people to change their mind is to appeal to another group they’re a member of. Like, you probably can’t get a republican to recycle by appealing to environmentalism. Republicans have gone hard on the environment doesn’t matter. But you could probably make progress if you appealed to american exceptionalism. Only America can turn trash into treasure! That might appeal. That doesn’t make them feel like they’re clashing with a group.
This is also how stuff like qanon hook into people. Being part of the group feels good, and getting people to look at facts is going to be an uphill battle when it means risking that membership. And that’s on top of the whole “most people don’t want to admit fault”
Anyway. I digress. The specifics of christianity are a problem, but none of this is really unique to it. We should probably be spending more effort dismantling hate groups and such, though. And maybe building groups that aren’t centered on hate and xenophobia.
Excellently written, and I agree deeply with the conclusion. Sometimes certain major religions make me so mad that it’s hard to see the forest for the trees, but I know what you say is correct, as I’ve read similar ideas on belief and its connection with social connections. Zizek for example has written a great deal on belief and how its important/shapes us/we all experience it.
Also, secondarily, I guess “Not All Religions.” Every religion is imperfect, but not all of them are rooted in fear of death and promises of eternal life. Hinduism and Buddhism for example are complex religions of their own that don’t come in the Abrahamic Religion Package.
However…
I agree with all of these, but how do we even address that the religions that do specifically have a problem are some of the most widely believed religions on the planet? I know we need to be dismantling hate groups, but how do we dismantle those ones, because I hate to say it, their history is where a large part of the cycle of abuse in human society comes from. These specific religions do teach things like Christianity’s “turn the other cheek” that demand submissiveness from their members. I really do think those major religions are the root of abusive behavior because it’s so ingrained in the religions and these religions have so much history. It literally impacts the majority of the world.
It’s really hard, because like… I know a fella in Jordan who, when he lived in the US, admitted to me he thought he might be atheist. Eventually, he went back home to Jordan. I think about when he said that, a lot. It’s literally a dangerous thing for him to admit in Jordan. It’s not like they will kill him or anything, but he could lose his job, certain types of property, be divorced from his wife by the state, be denied any and all inheritances, and custody of his children. That’s the government saying to all the citizens of Jordan that they’ll try to ruin your life if you admit atheism. What a way to kill all doubt in a believers mind, eh?
I appreciate this perspective, but it feels like not even treading water when we’re talking about dismantling hate groups, as if some religious institutions aren’t purpose-built to facilitate becoming hate groups.
Thank you for the kind words.
I unfortunately do not have any easy answers, nor unusual power to enact my will on the larger world.
However, if I was a billionaire, I would consider trying to build up the religious Left. Bear with me.
People aren’t going to abandon religion overnight. Religion does a lot of things for people. It provides community. Answers. Rituals. Charity. You can’t just rip that out. But I bet you could shape it.
The end goal would be something like the Unitarian Universalists. If you’re unfamiliar (and hopefully my knowledge isn’t too out of date), they’re a religion without a creed or dogma beyond “respect the inherent worth and dignity of other humans.” Members are encouraged to explore different traditions and faiths.
It has a lot of the structure of traditional religion. There’s a place you can go to on sunday to sing songs and meet people. They have people who can give you answers. They do social work. Any given congregation can be shaped or flavored to its locale. It can have many trappings of christianity, or judaism, or whatever the members want. That can get people in the door. It can feel church-y.
When I was a kid in the 90s (I’m getting old), my parents started going to a unitarian church as a sort of compromise. One week they had someone from Lambda Legal give a talk. I think that was the first time I saw an openly adult gay man, and he was just a dude in a suit talking about legal stuff. Bam. Normalized.
Anyway. Back to the billionaire fantasy. My plan would be to try to build more communities like that. They don’t have very specific dogmas, they don’t have to have a position on the supernatural, but they do provide community and many other parts of religion. The long term plan would be to shift the perspective on religion from “hey maybe this is true” to “this is the mythology people believed, and these were their rituals. We can participate in them to feel connected to our heritage, but we don’t have to be literal about it”.
This is by no means a fully thought through idea, and I don’t have the money or clout to make it happen. But that’s what I would try. It would leverage the group membership thing by making people feel like they’re shifting from one religion to another instead of just BAM GIVE UP YOUR TRADITIONS. But it would take decades, possibly centuries, of work to make a dent. Catholicism, for example, is huge, wealthy, and organized. It’s not going away in our life time.
So, it turns out you don’t have to be a billionaire to make things happen. I can think of two ways a bunch of people on Lemmy can make a movement like this happen.
Approach 1: Create a non-profit/charity
This will have to start very small, be funded through donations, and slowly grow by helping people in various ways, causing more people to join and expand. Like you mentioned, it will take a very long time to make a dent in Catholicism.
Approach 2: Get corporate America behind this
This is a lot easier than people think - we just need to figure out how do monetize this. Given how many private jets and other extravagances Christian evangelicals have, I suspect there could be enough money in religion - we’d have to discuss and work out how to get enough $$$ to make it worth their while without having hate as a core tenet of our religion.
This approach could have the advantage of multi-million dollar advertising budgets, lobbyists, and many other resources to have a much faster impact than the other approach.
Let me know if you’re up for discussing and fleshing out the details. I think it could be a fun exercise, and it might even lead somewhere in the future - I personally have a few contacts in high places in corporate America that will always listen to new business pitches 😉
That’s great! I know a much better way to change the minds of hateful fascists, though!
It works permanently and goes at about 762 meters per second.
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I fully believe raising a kid in religion is “priming the pump” to allow them to believe any old absolute bullshit.
It’s building a mind that’s willing to reject reality for fantasy.
All of it boiling down to “humans are scared of death” and the fantasy is avoiding death (eternal life).
It’s not about being funny in that way. It’s about countering bullshit and unfortunately it can only be in small bite sized bits and to make those that spew that garbage be aware constantly it’s not accepted by others by asking the question.
Odds are it’s those on the fence that can be swayed.
For the rest it’s a form of Chinese water torture that will eventually get through but like you say most that need to hear it won’t and they’ll move on to things like adernochrome and liberal baby eating.
Speaking of that, it’s odd those for having a choice to have a child or not would also eat those babies? Why would they want to not have them? It’s a steady diet of them if they are forced to have kids they don’t want?
It’s unfortunate stupid logic questions like this are the only things that jar them enough to either act in rage or dismiss it all together in a flight response but it did chip something in the process.
Full stop. It’s cathartic, does no harm, adds a momentary smile to my otherwise dreary, humdrum, frustrating life. Bring on the drag queens, please!
Respectfully disagree. It’s always been more frustrating than cathartic, but maybe if we keep repeating it enough times, just a few people might get the point. I don’t think it’ll happen often, but that crazy-ass worldview is fragile, being based mostly on lies. If you can break one of their beliefs, you might slowly shatter the whole thing.
Sometimes you’ve just gotta keep drumming a point until it hits home. Yeah, for 90% of people it will make absolutely no difference. Either they’re already convinced, or there’s absolutely nothing that will change their mind. But there’s a possibility to make a huge difference for a few.
We disagree? I see no disagreement.