This whole trying to convince strangers they are trans thing is so unbelievably yucky and I’m certain it makes plenty of good people question their support of trans rights
Egg Prime Directive, you NEVER try to crack someone else’s egg. It is imperative to respect people’s gender identities always, that means listening to them, even if they don’t conform to traditional gender norms. If a person is taking HRT to look fem but says they’re male, then they’re male, it’s valid. No one has the right to argue that he’s semantically a trans woman, because gender identity is ultimately based on how one identifies, not ones actions, choices, or desires.
So many people tried to tell me I was trans and I was but it just led me to me repressing memories and avoiding the topic. It was extremely harmful to me that all of my friends did this.
What worked was someone sending me to a website and saying “read this, if you have any questions, I’m here for you and I have some answers and more websites.”
It’s entertaining hearing some recently trans friends speculating on who they think is an egg… However it makes me wonder what happens when I haven’t been present.
They’re not trying to say its “turning people trans” they’re saying it’s disrespectful and toxic to try and break other people’s eggs. People need to discover themselves at their own pace, they know who they are best and what they want for themselves. People don’t have the right to try and decide a person’s gender for someone else, that’s wrong.
Also, it reinforces gender norms. “If you’re not a boy, that’s means you’re a girl who needs girl hormones.” There’s still the entire spectrum in between. You can be either, or neither.
If you see one meme in passing that says “wouldn’t you feel better as a cute girl?” and your unironic reaction is “OMG YUSSSS UWU HOW’D YOU GUESS?!” spoilers - you may not be as cis as you think.
Thats not how trans actually works though. You can’t just be convinced youre trans if youre not. Well I suppose a male who wants feminine skin could be a femboy. But otherwise? Every currently masculine person who would like to be feminine… Is some sort of transfem.
This whole trying to convince strangers they are trans thing is so unbelievably yucky and I’m certain it makes plenty of good people question their support of trans rights
Egg Prime Directive, you NEVER try to crack someone else’s egg. It is imperative to respect people’s gender identities always, that means listening to them, even if they don’t conform to traditional gender norms. If a person is taking HRT to look fem but says they’re male, then they’re male, it’s valid. No one has the right to argue that he’s semantically a trans woman, because gender identity is ultimately based on how one identifies, not ones actions, choices, or desires.
Please follow the egg prime directive.
So many people tried to tell me I was trans and I was but it just led me to me repressing memories and avoiding the topic. It was extremely harmful to me that all of my friends did this.
What worked was someone sending me to a website and saying “read this, if you have any questions, I’m here for you and I have some answers and more websites.”
It’s entertaining hearing some recently trans friends speculating on who they think is an egg… However it makes me wonder what happens when I haven’t been present.
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They’re not trying to say its “turning people trans” they’re saying it’s disrespectful and toxic to try and break other people’s eggs. People need to discover themselves at their own pace, they know who they are best and what they want for themselves. People don’t have the right to try and decide a person’s gender for someone else, that’s wrong.
Also, it reinforces gender norms. “If you’re not a boy, that’s means you’re a girl who needs girl hormones.” There’s still the entire spectrum in between. You can be either, or neither.
Classic cishet cognitive bias: It doesn’t bother me, so it shouldn’t bother you!
That’s…a cishet thing? I’m not sure it is.
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So it’s very appropriate for someone who would be in the potential category to comment.
When they open with dismissiveness, I’m inclined to dismiss them too.
This isn’t how I expected to find out.
It’s like unironically trying to turn the frogs gay. It won’t help any good cause.
It plays into bigoted ideas. Groomers are trying to turn your kid trans! Look, here’s proof!
Thats not how trans actually works though. You can’t just be convinced youre trans if youre not. Well I suppose a male who wants feminine skin could be a femboy. But otherwise? Every currently masculine person who would like to be feminine… Is some sort of transfem.
Did I ever suggest that it was possible to turn someone trans? Did anyone?