Avoiding oversharing is so hard … a while back at an after-work dinner, after a couple of beers, people were sharing accounts of work social events that had got out of hand.
One guy had a story that his department had been labeled delinquents, after they had all got drunk and jumped in a lake … that sounded like my sort of crazy. So, I mentioned how my at-the-time girlfriend had been caught having sex with the CEO’s trophy wife at a work christmas party, which even at the time I thought was funny.
Well, that completely killed the conversation. In the past I’ve kept quiet, and then been asked why I’m not being sociable. It would appear I can’t win :-/
One is cheeky social fun with mates, the other involves multiple taboo and touchy subjects (specially in corporate spaces). Like sex and hierarchy and cheating.
Rapid breathing also directly causes anxiety, it flips your physical flight or fight button and your brain doesn’t know why so you get anxiety. It’s why yoga and meditation are so frequently suggested as aids to help relieve anxiety
breathe and speak slower, it helps you think about what you’re going to say, avoiding over sharing
I learned this through talking with my 100 year-old grandmother. She can’t hear well and I had to learn to speak slower and choose my words better.
I didn’t realise how much of a problem this can be for me until I read this comment. I’m gonna try to implement these changes ASAP.
Whoa … slow down and breathe
but but gotta go fast!!!
I literally read this in my head with an overly-fast excited voice lol
Avoiding oversharing is so hard … a while back at an after-work dinner, after a couple of beers, people were sharing accounts of work social events that had got out of hand.
One guy had a story that his department had been labeled delinquents, after they had all got drunk and jumped in a lake … that sounded like my sort of crazy. So, I mentioned how my at-the-time girlfriend had been caught having sex with the CEO’s trophy wife at a work christmas party, which even at the time I thought was funny.
Well, that completely killed the conversation. In the past I’ve kept quiet, and then been asked why I’m not being sociable. It would appear I can’t win :-/
it’s so hard to avoid it cause it doesn’t sound any wrong in our minds
That and, apparently, my idea of what’s normal is very different from most of society.
Tbf I wouldnt count those two as comparable.
Maybe it seemed so in the situation but reading it like this in a vacuum…Not equal at all.
I don’t really understand why, but ok. See, this is why socialising is difficult for me :-/
One is cheeky social fun with mates, the other involves multiple taboo and touchy subjects (specially in corporate spaces). Like sex and hierarchy and cheating.
Ah ok, I was thinking jumping in a lake was already way over any line, because it’s something I’d consider more off-limits than casual sex :-/
Hierarchy and cheating never even occurred to me
Rapid breathing also directly causes anxiety, it flips your physical flight or fight button and your brain doesn’t know why so you get anxiety. It’s why yoga and meditation are so frequently suggested as aids to help relieve anxiety