Feelings I had for my classmate were obviously one-sided (pretty sure of it), so I made a reasonable decision to never confess to not make things awkward. In a few years since we graduated I finally moved on, although I never loved anyone this much since.
Yet all this time I had a desire to tell her about them. I would definitely want to know if someone loved me this much ever. Would she? I don’t know. I don’t even know if she is in a relationship right now or not.
I would really want to cite some scientific study that “Over 80% of girls have their self-confidence lifted after being told they were secretly admired (p<0.05)”, but can’t find one.
You mean comments?
Changed compared to what anchor point?
May I ask what exact part of my post lead to her suspecting I was one (apparently in modern definition)?
Yes, I meant your replies in this thread. I have no idea what your post history is and no desire or reason to look it up.
Just the way you are replying to everything and being overly analytical on everything. You seem to be trying to attack this problem like a programmer who is programming something. Dude, real life ain’t like that.
I’m sure you already know some of the issues with your personality when it comes to things like this. And I’m sure you have noticed how many of your replies have been downvoted.
You are totally free to do what you want. But many here are giving you good advice based on their more rounded life experience. Yeah, you can go and say it all assumptions, we’re wrong, we don’t get you, we don’t know you, etc.
How much dating experience do you have? I have dated a lot, and I am not a great looking guy. So I have had to depend on my personality to date. And the way your personality comes across in this thread, isn’t one I have ever seen be overly successful when it comes to relationships or social interaction.
But you are right about the fact that we don’t REALLY know you. So let ur freak flag fly and do what you want. You asked for advice, but there is no law that says you have to follow it! :)
I assume you have already looked it up after writing that; I would have a temptation. I want to clarify that the post about solar inclination-based geolocation where you were also present was a part of a separate thought process going on for a few days and it being posted close in time was just a coincidence.
I thought “incels” (in modern degradatory definition) were supposed to be emotional guys who hate women because they don’t have feelings they want. Not people who approach dating rationally and try to estimate each other’s feelings using best scientific methods available. Never heard Sheldon Cooper, or Data from TNG being called this way.
BTW, I think you said you read just the post to her before getting this reaction, you never said anything about the comments.
None, and I was never accused in being improper in trying to get into one—because I approach the subject rationally. I would never approach anyone in that way until I’m reasonably confident they are interested in me in a sufficient degree. Finding the most compatible person may be a lifetime-long quest, but it pays off at the end.
Not yet. Still no temptation