Gonna be honest, having had the freedom to let it grow wild I’m starting to think its not all its cracked up to be
But having enough available length for pigtails and meatball buns? You can’t put a price on that. So I put up with accidentally pulling my hair that got caught between me and the matress when I stir in the night
It’s insane how people will use having short hair growing up as “evidence” that an AMAB person isn’t really trans—as if:
- They have any control over it
- Girls can’t prefer short hair
My parents completely shaved my head every summer regardless of how long it was and I remember crying every time.
When they finally gave me a choice over my hair in High School, I always grew it out and only trimmed it when they started making fun of how “shaggy” I looked.
Short hair is cute–Cropped with volume or just short-short. That is a really silly thing for onlookers to bring up, but low-hanging fruit is what they prefer to go after, as dealing with reality is too difficult.
And AMABs are indeed unfortunately often forced, either physically or psychologically(abusing their psyche until they “want to,” do so as to try to pretend they gave their child choice) get their hair cut regardless of how they feel about it. My cis as cis could be cousin even, he just straight up preferred longer hair growing up and hated it cut, and it would harm him emotionally if a barber screwed it up(or if they were “influenced,” as I suspect happened in some cases) and made it too short. He was collateral of a society that wants to strike down even the possibility of someone living a life of their own beyond the “values they were raised on,”(gross).
gather round and watch me abuse my own child
what a dick
conservative parents tend to excel at that
I grew my hair as long as I was allowed to, getting it cut just inside the school rules (off the collar, eyebrows, and ears from K-8; off the collar and eyebrows from 9-12), for ages. I was bullied pretty relentlessly for it, mostly from adults. I eventually caved to the social pressure and cut it short, and hated it. I tried buzzing it and hated it even more. Had it short for probably around 8-10 years because I felt like I didn’t have any other choice.
And now it’s down past my shoulders, and I love it so much 🥰
I wish children’s autonomy was more respected generally. How horrible to do that to your own child over something like hair length.
My kid’s dad pressured him to cut his hair a couple summers back. It devastated my kid. He loves his hair long.
My parents always said I could do whatever I wanted with my hair if I didn’t do drugs or alcohol. It was a surprisingly healthy rule they had for me. Didn’t realize at the time why I liked having long hair, I always said it was something, something, I don’t like getting it cut. They did make me cut it (not short though) on occasion mostly because I was never taught to properly take care of my hair, so I did let it get a bit unkempt in the past.
I’m sorry your kid had to deal with that
<3 I take him to his preferred barber each time he wants a trim now to avoid anything like that happening again.
I hope you only have good hair days forever more :)
Thank you ❤️
This sucks that kids are being forced to cut their hair just because “it’s girly”. Despite my country and it’s society being transphobic, what i hate about living here, somehow literally every other teen and young adult has a nice long hair, and nobody seems to care, which is nice.
Unfortunally i also was forced to cut my hair when i was the kid, so now i will not cut my beautiful long hair ever again :3
The B-Side loves to make commentary whenever I opt not to get my hair cut(I still have not decided the extent of how long I want to keep it, it does not really get longer just bushier), but they cannot reasonably do anything about it anymore(adulthood is nice like that). I like it not shaved completely, but I also do not particularly care either. I have said it before that if I started losing my hair I would just shave it all off and be done with it. Too beautiful with too much to do and deal with to be bothered by the length of my hair atop it all.
That said–Rock your awesome hair! As long and flowing and as big and beautiful as you like, that is what is important. If you like it, let nobody stop you!
And the “family values,” cats need to be smacked with a fish. Their own Clan unites only when there is something to hate, then they go back to harming each other. They do not value anything other than authoritarian control and oppressing the vulnerable, and the second anyone in their life tells them to shove it, they get absolutely livid. Seen that play out one too many times dealing with the B-Side.
I succumbed to social pressure before and the will of my father to cut them short. I always loved my long hair. They were long and beautiful when I started university (ᴗ͈ˬᴗ͈)ꕤ.ﾟ Too bad I didn’t understand I was an egg.
I like keeping my hair short, but that’s mainly because it makes wearing over-ear headphones more comfortable for long periods :3
People should pick the style they want tho!
counter-argument: music has a nicer sound to it when it gets filtered through a layer of hair (less sharp noises)
