So I’m real confused at why people hate big polyamorous relationships? Like it confuses me because isn’t the basis of being poly. Loving others and loving multiple people. Giving dedication to multiple people? Which it never specified on what type of group or how big of a group. So where does the hate of big polys come from?
If anyone can explain this please. Since this is not the first time I’ve got hate for my poly. Which actually normally I ether instantly get banned from places for asking questions or I get like 100s of downvotes. Though everyone just keeps their mouths shut and I’ve never really asked before but it just doesn’t make sense. Why is adding people to a poly to protect and love them. To give them the best life possible. With no abuse and no manipulation. To give others the happiness it’s hard for me to feel. A bad thing like why does the size of the poly or how we’re together make any difference. It’s just love isn’t it? Also it’s completely legal? So where is the issue.
Now I’ve heard some people jokingly call it a sex cult but I don’t believe it’d logically be that. Also for me it has nothing to do with the number of people, their sexualities, gender. All that matters to me is their personality and how I can help them grow into who they want to become. Which this probably gonna sound cheesy but it’s like watching a caterpillar transform into a butterfly. The beauty that comes from their happiness when they succeed or become who they want to be is my favourite part. Below is the definition of Polyamory and it never specifies anything about size or how it works unless it’s consensual and morally correct. So if this is a stereotype why don’t we burn that shit and just love!
Which I thought to add people can have different size polys or work differently yk and if you take my approach you’ll know when you get enough people or some can just give infinite love out.
To me it sounds like you’re making it up. Forty-nine partners is more than a believable amount; I don’t even care if it is true. You sound like a kid bragging online for the first time, and it’s hard to take you seriously.
If you are telling the truth and wanted to be taken more seriously, I would start with being more vague about the numbers. No one needs to know about all forty-nine.
But that’s just me. I can’t speak for anyone else. Also, I have you tagged in my App as “49 Wives” and every time you I chuckle a little.
I mean I am young and rather bad at communication overall so that doesn’t surprise me. Though honestly I’m more trying to challenge social norms and make awareness that people can just love. lol there’s 23 men and 26 ladies actually 😅
Also I’m very factual and detailed because I’m autistic and traumatized 🤣🤣
Also I’m very factual and detailed because I’m autistic and traumatized
I kinda figured. That’s why I answered instead of ignoring you. But it also does add to the sex cult thing. That is just way too many partners for the average person to keep up with. At least 8x the amount I’m comfortable with.
20x for me. And yeah…no way this person isn’t having a giggle.
I think it’s because it absolutely stretches the limits of what most people imagine can be done based on time. Like that’s my initial thought. I barely have time for three partners, once you get past ten it’s difficult to imagine how you manage the scheduling alone unless you’ve got like a commune going.
Thank you so much for your answer!!! Though I see what you mean I guess there is no schedule and since everyone is with everyone (almost beside blood relations) their not dependent on one person for love or comfort so while one person is out with another most of the time they’ll just go to someone else or we honestly most of the time don’t do anything we’re just separated between two main houses and when they wake up. We’re just there talking and or doing different small things.
Which then there are the almost totally independent ones, like my wife mommy, she basically lives in the wilderness. Is only home like once or twice a month. Then Lord, Villman and Sjøengel are movie actors they’re out busy with their life or their own kids. Then like Fae, Pebble, and Bear are singers too. So they have their own life but still more around more than the actors but still really busy.
Yeah what you’re saying makes a certain amount of sense but when I mentally model it it keeps looking more like a nonromantic commune than something like my relationships where a handful of people struggle to have time even though we don’t have any triads or anything like that in our polycule. And that’s probably why people go to cult. I don’t even have that many friends I interact with on a regular basis, and that’s despite being involved in communities and such.
Hey I read your other posts and I agree with the cult thing. I would suggest you try to check for signs. Best of luck and please try stop engaging in sexual relationships with your partners mothers, fathers, siblings and other relatives.
