I think that is, to a certain extent, very normal. it’s part of why familial relationships can be so challenging IMO. Most people like, continue to grow and develop after becoming independent, and if you don’t stay like, super close day to day with your family during that time, or you have to/just choose to, hide some of the new emerging parts of yourself from them, when you do finally see them, then it’s pretty easy to end up like, a different person than you were when you lived with them, and A) feel weird about it and hide it instinctively and/or B) just fall back into old patterns of behavior and interaction when you are with them. Since you spent so many formative years with them those habits don’t just go away easy
At least that’s my thoughts on it. If its really making you uncomfortable it’ll probably take some conscious effort to change your habits, and hopefully in time he will also adjust to match your energy and be chill/talk about a wider variety of things
huh
yeah that feels more like… denial, on their part, or something. Cognitive dissonance, idk