She was trying to politely suggest the guy is a misogynist.

Assuming you’re male, that’s more likely the difference than anything else.

You don’t have to feel the same way, but I recommend learning to recognize that he treats them differently; and that their opinions are also valid will help.

Like most of your other questions, this appears to be a veiled call for validation in feeling annoyed at and superior to your coworkers.

Sometimes it’s not all the other cars on the motorway driving in the wrong direction.

You failed to include a very relevant part of information in your post: your own gender. I don’t know if you omitted it on purpose, or out of obliviousness, but going on the assumption that you’re a man due to your language towards women:

Did it not occur to you that a male patient could actually be acting more aggressively towards your female coworkers? That he would be less cooperative towards those “damn nagging women” than towards a man? And that the standards of what makes a male patient scary could be completely different from the perspective of a woman?

Men experience the world very differently from women, particularly when it comes to social interactions. Just because YOU haven’t had too much of a problem with this patient doesn’t mean that your female coworkers have experienced the same thing.

You already know the answer, and you don’t need us to validate every miserable interaction you have at work.

Stop worrying so much about what they think. You obviously hate interacting with people, so just accept that you’re going to be the “weird socially awkward” one at the office and just ignore them and do your job.

You can’t get fired for doing your job. Just mind your business and ignore everyone beyond please and thank you and “good morning”, “good afternoon” and “good night”.

Is it company policy to be part of the “hive mind”? (your words, not mine)

Doubtful.

Is there a decent chance that they experience negative things you don’t because of gender?

Highly likely.

This isn’t about guys’n’gals.

This is simpky about how people work:

If your peers (friends, colleagues, family) have an opinion (any opinion), their default expectation is that you share that opinion - this is what being a peer is mostly about.

You can demonstrate solidarity by agreeing - this is virtually always the safe option.

You can demonstrate backbone by disagreeing - this can generate respect or animosity.

You can refuse to weigh in - this is mostly a middle ground between the two above.

How it actual shakes out in reality will depend on a myriad of factors, many of which you’re not even consciously aware of.

Thus, this random internet stranger can give you only three pieces of advice:

• Trust your instincts on how to handle this. Your subconscious is very well wired to navigate social situations as best as possible.

• If you ever change your opinion or “change your opinion”, announce it clearly and give/make up a reason. People disrespect people who are inconsistent, but they respect people who can admit to mistakes / learn.

• Sometimes, you can’t win. Sometimes, someone will be pissed off, no matter what you do. It’s no fault of yours, some situations are just not salvageable to begin with.

My girlfriend used to work in child care at several different day care centres having almost exclusively female co-workers and she said it was the most toxic work environment imaginable. It was constant drama every single day. She has since moved to a whole different industry and now her workmates are almost all male and she says the difference is like a night and day. Since starting at this new place over 3 years ago I can’t remember hearing her complain about her job even once.

You have failed the hive test. Prepare to be persecuted dogpile style.

No you don’t lol. Everyone does this, but girls tend to do this a bit more imo and are a bit dramatic. It’s essentially just drama at the end of the day.