• Kuori [she/her, pup/pup's]@hexbear.net
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        18 days ago

        weird how “allies” like yourself always use the same rhetoric as the people who want us dead. if you were actually an ‘ally’ you’d just acknowledge your comment sucked and learn to be less of a piece of shit.

          • FlakesBongler [they/them]@hexbear.net
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            18 days ago

            smug-explain Actually, it's quite humorous to imply that someone is gay. You're just too emotional to admit that being gay is actually really funny, because bad people are gay and gay things are bad. You can't be mad for saying this, because I am actually calm and mature for making jokes like this.

          • axont [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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            17 days ago

            you just called it a joke, so you’re saying it would be funny if Donald Trump and Kim Jong-Un were secretly gay? Is it funny when people are gay? Do you think it would diminish the reputations of these two people if it turned out they were both gay and would you revel in that possibility?

            i don’t have to look hard at all, you said that implying two people being secretly gay is a joke. That’s a funny concept to you.

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            18 days ago

            Mite fuck around and regret posting this, but I generally think the idea of “boy crush” and “girl crush” are not really about sexuality at all.

            Unfortunately the rest of your post is implying actually rude insulting things about the DPRK, so I’m not trying to defend you as much as defend the concept of heterosexual non-sexual homosexual crushes. Because it IS interesting.

            Edit:

            I have not been able to stop ruminating on this and have come to the conclusion that the “non sexual” heterosexual “boy crush” / “girl crush” language is actually a reflection of internalised homophobia. When used in the way I’m thinking, it is used to express complex same-gender attraction, while maintaining a veneer of deniability which would not be necessary outside of a homophobic culture.

            Further more, I suspect it has dropped out of currency in the English language because we pioneered the phrase “no homo” to serve the same purpose.

            • axont [she/her, comrade/them]@hexbear.net
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              17 days ago

              not only is it homophobic, it’s kinda infantilizing too right? It’s middle school level bullying, saying two people are gay together because you don’t like either of them. It’s only used in an insulting or patronizing way. I don’t think there’s a positive way to imply two people are secretly gay.

              • JustSo [she/her, any]@hexbear.net
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                17 days ago

                It certainly is in the context of the post we’re discussing.

                Its possible that my elder millennial exposure to the term allows me to be way more generous than I should be, since it is possible to converge on “boy crush” as an insult from first principles (lol) working forward from simple homophobia and juvenile attacks.