“Male loneliness” aka “I’ve been raised to think that patriarchy works and that I deserve a bunch of shit without reason. Why is the world so mean to me?” Meanwhile, everyone is lonely because capitalists made it cost money to see people and no one’s got any of that.
i’ve been a feminist since i was 12. that didn’t stop other people from having prejudice about how i am “about to rape them” the moment i turn my face towards them
Now imagine how fucking lonely it is needing to devote mental effort to finding out which men aren’t rapists.
Dude, I’m 6’4", over weight, have AuDHD, and resting bitch face. Do you think I don’t have the same lived experience as you? I lived until I was in my mid 20s like the world perceived me as a monster. I’m telling you that it isn’t a male loneliness problem, it’s a loneliness problem and your ego can’t or won’t let you see past the parts of that that directly impact you.
Lonely man here. I’ve been raised to think that every man are pervert and women keep getting catcalled and harassed in the street. I’m so ashamed of myself that I just cannot approach a woman without thinking I will annoy her and will be rejected no matter what I try. So I just… don’t.
I understand people using LLM for romance. I don’t use it because of big corps. But If I had a fully local, fast, LLM, I think I would also use it.
That’s another example. People are just people. If you interact with them, you’ll be shocked to find that most of them have just as complicated relationship with the world as you do. You don’t need to be afraid that everyone views you as a monster because of your gender. They don’t. They won’t trust you initially cause we live in a time of low trust (most interactions you have are people trying to get one over on you, because of the anonymity of the interaction). All that it takes to get over that is more interactions with the same people. Then you’ll be more confident in other interactions with strangers going forward.
“Male loneliness” aka “I’ve been raised to think that patriarchy works and that I deserve a bunch of shit without reason. Why is the world so mean to me?” Meanwhile, everyone is lonely because capitalists made it cost money to see people and no one’s got any of that.
i’ve been a feminist since i was 12. that didn’t stop other people from having prejudice about how i am “about to rape them” the moment i turn my face towards them
Now imagine how fucking lonely it is needing to devote mental effort to finding out which men aren’t rapists.
Dude, I’m 6’4", over weight, have AuDHD, and resting bitch face. Do you think I don’t have the same lived experience as you? I lived until I was in my mid 20s like the world perceived me as a monster. I’m telling you that it isn’t a male loneliness problem, it’s a loneliness problem and your ego can’t or won’t let you see past the parts of that that directly impact you.
Lonely man here. I’ve been raised to think that every man are pervert and women keep getting catcalled and harassed in the street. I’m so ashamed of myself that I just cannot approach a woman without thinking I will annoy her and will be rejected no matter what I try. So I just… don’t.
I understand people using LLM for romance. I don’t use it because of big corps. But If I had a fully local, fast, LLM, I think I would also use it.
To give a specific actionable practice, find a local public hobby meetup and go to it.
Joining a sea shanty sing-a-long at a local bar changed my life
That’s another example. People are just people. If you interact with them, you’ll be shocked to find that most of them have just as complicated relationship with the world as you do. You don’t need to be afraid that everyone views you as a monster because of your gender. They don’t. They won’t trust you initially cause we live in a time of low trust (most interactions you have are people trying to get one over on you, because of the anonymity of the interaction). All that it takes to get over that is more interactions with the same people. Then you’ll be more confident in other interactions with strangers going forward.