• limelight79@lemm.eeEnglish
    7·
    1 day ago

    A guy at work did something like that. Went on vacation for a week, just never returned. Didn’t return phone calls or emails. Eventually he popped up on social media about 6 months later and some coworkers spotted him and got the story. If I remember correctly (which I may not), I think his girlfriend convinced him to stay, so he did, and he just ghosted his job.

    • mightyfoolish@lemmy.worldEnglish
      13·
      2 days ago

      This post is actually scary. Probably should get in touch with the embassy or something and get a courtesy check done on him?

      • Lord Wiggle@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        2 days ago

        If he, or the mafia doesn’t want him to be found, there’s not much you can do.

        But in all seriousness: yeah, when someone is missing they should be reported as such at the local police, who can contact the embassy’s office in the country they were going on holiday. Many parts of Italy are very safe, rich, modern. But there are also parts where you will get hurt, especially as a tourist. Loads of poverty, gangs, mafia, corruption (particularly the south).

        • mightyfoolish@lemmy.worldEnglish
          1·
          1 day ago

          I’m sure you are correct about who to contact first but I would get worried the police would say it’s out of their jurisdiction.

          • Lord Wiggle@lemmy.worldEnglish
            2·
            1 day ago

            Ah ok. I thought in freedomland it wouldn’t be much different, but usually a missing person claim should be passed onto the missing persons division of the responsible police force with a unit like that. But if anyone says “nope, bye” you can always try somewhere else. Or Google it, or ask chat gpt.

  • jpreston2005@lemmy.worldEnglish
    2·
    1 day ago

    I seriously almost did this. I visited the Netherlands, and fell absolutely head over heels for their way of life. It’s so damn peaceful and free! You don’t have to worry about getting shot when you’re running errands. You don’t have to worry about going bankrupt through medical expenses. You don’t have to worry about going to jail over weed or mushrooms. You don’t have to buy a car, because bicycling infrastructure and public transportation is AMAZING.

    While I was there I met a lovely chap who is originally from England. He told me that he spent a holiday in Amsterdam, and broke his leg. So he stayed at the hospital, and afterwards, just didn’t leave. He’s been working/living there ever since.

    When it came time for me to leave, I had accidentally missed my train, and it was going to be some extra money to switch around my flight/train to get back home, and a part of me was seriously considering just being like “fuck it” and staying. The only thing stopping me from moving there now is the knowledge that I’d have to continue paying taxes to the U.S. if I wanted to keep my citizenship while living and paying taxes in the Netherlands. 😑

    If anyone can tell me a way around this… please do, because I want to move to the Netherlands.

    • sayitghoul@lemmy.worldEnglish
      2·
      1 day ago

      I am Dutch but moved to England (for love) 16 years ago and I have never regretted it. Do it while you can, else you will just live with the regret. It is such a life experience moving countries, there is no way to describe it. The magical feeling that you have in the beginning does disappear a little over the years, but it never leaves completely. The memories you create are just so amazing that you will never lose the magical feeling entirely.

      Just. Do. It.

  • collapse_already@lemmy.mlEnglish
    35·
    3 days ago

    I worked at a restaurant as a teen. One of the managers went to Hawaii for vacation and never came back. Food service jobs are not hard to find. The bartender he was occasionally fucking was pretty unhappy because he didn’t even tell her or call.

    • MoonMelon@lemmy.mlEnglish
      191·
      2 days ago

      Every time I’ve gone to a beautiful place, (Kauai/Virgin Islands/Moab etc) I’ve run into former insurance salesman types who just said fuck it, and stayed, and now live in an old school bus and fix outboards or whatever. Often it was precipitated by a big life event like a divorce or a child leaving the nest but sometimes they just bounced. I get it.

        • dohpaz42@lemmy.worldEnglish
          6510·
          3 days ago

          If you’re considering ending it all, make one phone call. You’ve got nothing to lose.

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      • downpunxx@fedia.io
        105·
        3 days ago

        “And I would’ve gotten away with it too, if it weren’t for you meddling kids!”

    • TexasDrunk@lemmy.worldEnglish
      41·
      3 days ago

      That happened to a friend of mine. He deleted everything when he had a mental health episode. Took time off. They found his remains months later.

      So yeah, could be.

  • Etterra@lemmy.worldEnglish
    23·
    3 days ago

    I’ve had some coworkers that would have made my life better if they’d f’ed off to Italy and never come back.

  • Jo Miran@lemmy.mlEnglish
    1044·
    3 days ago

    Take two weeks vacation. Get paid.
    Miss two weeks of work. Get paid.
    Get fired. Get two weeks severance and unemployment.

    Homie quit and got six weeks pay plus unemployment benefits.

    • Bassman1805@lemmy.worldEnglish
      106·
      3 days ago

      Prob aren’t getting severance nor unemployment if you get fired for 2 weeks of no-call-no-show.

      • Jo Miran@lemmy.mlEnglish
        272·
        3 days ago

        Severance, you’re right. Unemployment is likely still on the table depending on the state. In Texas, the person can file for unemployment. The company can challenge saying they were a no show but the employee can argue that it isn’t true. It is just easier to allow unemployment to just cover it.

        EDIT: I once had a guy work for two week as a 1099 and he still filed for unemployment. That got denied because he was never an actual employee, but had we not noticed the claim in the mail, he would have gotten paid.

        • Ibaudia@lemmy.worldEnglish
          15·
          3 days ago

          I used to work in HR. Can confirm that some managers will just pay out bullshit claims because it would be expensive to litigate.

          • lath@lemmy.worldEnglish
            4·
            3 days ago

            I know someone working in HR. Can confirm that other managers will litigate just to be petty because it’s not their own money they’re spending.

          • Jo Miran@lemmy.mlEnglish
            51·
            3 days ago

            It isn’t a stretch. I can’t speak to other states but in Texas, it is almost guaranteed. I had added an edit to my previous comment. The fact that it was approved before we submitted our objection tells you enough.

    • variants@possumpat.ioEnglish
      10·
      3 days ago

      Why would he get paid for not showing up for 2 weeks, at least when I went on parental leave I had to talk to HR every week I didn’t work and ask them to use my sick time, even then they’d forget and I’d have to remind them before the week was off otherwise I wouldn’t get a check

      • Jo Miran@lemmy.mlEnglish
        14·
        3 days ago

        Salaried employees get paid by default. Someone has to notify accounting to not pay the person, not the other way around. This has been the process for every company I have ever worked for, or owned. I am not saying that what you are saying isn’t true, I am saying that it is fucked up.

    • ameancow@lemmy.worldEnglish
      371·
      3 days ago

      I used to fantasize about doing this.

      When it got to a point that I was making careful plans for how to effectively remove all traces of my existence before walking into the sea or something, I realized that it was probably not a good thing that I was fixating on this “fantasy” and how attractive it was becoming, so I went to a nice little family mental health clinic in walking distance.

      I was diagnosed with depression, PTSD and general anxiety disorder. A few years and a few rounds of therapy and medication later and I’m… still struggling. But at least I’m not planning my exit. There’s a lot to live for, but you can’t see it when your brain starts running away with your mental narratives. Don’t ruminate, don’t fantasize. Get some help and do something new with your lives.

      • NaoPb@eviltoast.orgEnglish
        81·
        3 days ago

        I’m in a similar situation. I recognize the planning of my exit. I used to do that in the past. Or well. Maybe it’s not all in my past yet. But I’m doing my best.

        All the best to you.

      • verity_kindle@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
        51·
        3 days ago

        Good ideas, all around. I’m glad you didn’t walk into the sea. I have walked through that dark place myself and it led me to get a therapist who knew exactly what that was like. I learned how to help myself. It’s been ten years since then.

      • Rediphile@lemmy.caEnglish
        31·
        3 days ago

        Meh, I find recognizing I have that ability is actually calming and snaps me out of the depression a bit.

  • corsicanguppy@lemmy.caEnglish
    853·
    3 days ago

    I quit my startup like that.

    We were making it: we were eking by and just starting to turn the corner when one of the partners did some legal wrangling to grab power. FineYouDoIt.jpg because I’d had enough already and prepped my next job.

    Hopped a plane. Hopped another. Hopped another. Three people on the planet knew where I was: Mom, GF, and guy who bashes bags at the local airport who saw my name on the flight manifest and checked my connection. Went to the waiting apartment to start the next day. Never looked back, didn’t answer email except when Cop friend emailed and asked whether I was missing. Nope, so case closed.

        • MagicShel@programming.devEnglish
          272·
          3 days ago

          A resignation would’ve worked just fine. I guess maybe paired with a restraining order if all of this was even remotely necessary.

          • KamikazeRusher@lemm.eeEnglish
            9·
            3 days ago

            I’ve been in a few situations before where it’s been incredibly tempting to just not show up because:

            • Your management doesn’t value your input
            • Nepotism is prevalent when promotions come around
            • You’re not doing the type of work that was advertised in the job post and discussed your first two weeks
            • You’re doing excellent work solving difficult and/or outstanding problems but someone else gets the credit

            Sure, you could put in a notice of resignation, but if you know that your manager is going to harass you for reasons why, possibly belittle you, and try to guilt-trip you into giving more time to the company to “finish out” tasks on your queue that they’ve not bothered to train anyone else on that you’ve requested over the last two years, then wanting to cut ties as quickly as possible given the toxic environment is a fairly normal desire.

            Not saying it’s the right thing to do, and all the flight-hopping that OP claims does seem a tad strange, but sometimes people end up in a fairly unsupportive or toxic environment where you just have to take actions in putting as much distance and as many barriers in place as possible to mentally feel like you’ve regained some level of control.

            • MagicShel@programming.devEnglish
              10·
              3 days ago

              Absolutely. I was supporting, “But why?” as a valid question because there’s more going on here than just being sick of a job. Yeah some places can be super toxic, but this sounds more like what you’d do if they wanted to ask questions about missing money or you punched a coworker or fleeing an abusive spouse. Not that I’m accusing OP of any of that, just agreeing that this is so extreme there’s something unsaid here.

  • pixeltree@lemmy.blahaj.zoneEnglish
    327·
    3 days ago

    I, too, fantasize about my coworkers wondering where I am, cue comedy smash cut to my slowly swinging corpse

    If/when I do kms it won’t be by hanging but it’s a funnier mental image

  • cumskin_genocide@lemm.eeEnglish
    19·
    3 days ago

    Something similar happened to a coworker of mine a long time ago. This girl I used to work with, Adriana, her boyfriend, Christopher, called us at work one day one said that she went on vacation and she just never came back. It was a shame too because the guy died in a car crash like a year later. I saw it on the news.