• Honytawk@lemmy.zip
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    Normalise responding with “Name 3 women who trust you that aren’t your mother” (I know she counts for 3)

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    Never experienced something like that, especially with metal fans who - in my opinion - are some of the most welcoming bunch.

    Perhaps it’s different in the US, but here in Germany that scenario seems unlikely.

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      In the UK I’ve found the extremes to be on both sides, although this largely aligns with the punk movement here from decades ago.

      Some metal fans are the nicest people you could hope to meet. One guy I met in a bar a month or so ago got talking to me because I noticed his Hatebreed shirt, and we got to talking about music, our kids, and life in general. I remember talking about tummy time with him, and before I left he had called his wife to ask what his daughter really liked, and rushed to give me the link so that I could buy it.

      Some are also utter bells. One guy I met years ago gave me shit for liking The Used’s set at Taste Of Chaos years ago, despite it basically being an emo festival that he also attended. He apparently only went for Killswitch Engage…so spent a fuck-ton to see one band while he seethed about the rest. I met another guy in a bar a year or so ago that was a huge dick to some women because one of them wore a Sleep Token shirt. He kept asking them to say what their favourite songs were, gave them shit because they were the newer songs, and then went on a rant about how they’re not even a metal band because they “basically do pop now”.

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    Three Iron Maiden songs? That’s easy! Am I Evil, Smoke on the Water, and Ace of Spades. And I’m sure they have a self-titled song, too.

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    I have been listening to metal basically half my life (15+ years) but can barely name artists or song names let alone remember lyrics. my memory truly sucks (also does not help that most are not in my native language).

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      let alone remember lyrics

      The secret is we don’t actually understand what they are singing either.

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      Haha same. I’ve been listening to metal, hardcore, thrash and punk for like 25+ years, i listen to music pretty much all day if i can. I hardly know song titles, i even have trouble remembering band names. When i was younger i went to like 2 or 3 concerts a week, but i never fucking knew what the bands even looked like, nor did i really care.

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    2 Minutes to Midnight

    Aces High

    Wasted Years


    I’m gonna get a lot of shit for this, but I never really liked Iron Maiden and Slayer.

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      And The Trooper!

      Out of curiosity, why don’t you like either of these bands?

      I’ve always liked Iron Maiden. Good songs with great lyrics. Not a big fan of Slayer tho.

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        Here’s a translation which is close…

        In our time I would have knocked you on your face set your hair on fire, hid your sandwiches Cause I can’t stand that you wear something by the Ramones and that you know nothing about them when I ask you about them And how about those fancy vans on your feet Were the k-swis on, you’re gonna pay for that shouldn’t you be jumping around with a red bull vodka instead of walking around with a Metallica t-shirt Look there’s a john-ny with a t-shirt of Me-tal-li-ca ok chill look, there used to be johnny’s Ugly marinas with buffaloes and ponies every day of the week at war with skaters with adidas, pumas or vans with no laces But I found that segregation very practical at the time for us it was nirvana and for them songs about barbies now it’s ruined, all gone to shit because there’s a Johnny with a Metallica t-shirt. Look there’s a Johnny with a Metallica T-shirt

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          Personally, I get where they’re coming from. I too was a metalhead and grunge fanatic who considered people who preferred pop and techno music a different species and a hostile one at that.

          I’d since grown up, though, and found that, while it’s good to belong to a community, “the others” wearing its trappings doesn’t detract from it or the good memories and gatekeeping is just a petty thing to do IMO 🤷

          Edit: fixed my spell check apparently thinking that gatekeeping is behavior typical of Tom Petty, since it capitalized the word 😄

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            Well, here’s a spoiler: their songs are basically satire. They also have songs on BMW drivers, indian/pakistani nightshop owners, vegans, …

            It is true, everybody should be allowed to wear what they like.

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    Pfft.

    Without even looking: Prowler, Remember Tomorrow, Phantom of the Opera, Running Free, Transylvania, Charlotte the Harlot, Iron Maiden’s gonna getcha no matter how far, Iron Maiden wants you for dead!

    Man, I love the first two albums. Paul couldn’t sing much but he screamed really well.

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      She doesn’t owe him anything.

      It’s basically accusing her of cultural appropriation, just for wearing a t-shirt she likes.

      The question implies skepticism that she is an authentic fan. It’s a form of gatekeeping, based in misogyny and rigid social conformity.

      Even if she doesn’t really know iron maiden’s music, so what? It’s perfectly reasonable to choose your shirts based on styles and colours you like. I wore a Popeye the sailor t-shirt yesterday, I would not be prepared to talk about my favorite episodes.

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          In what reality is it important to pull someone’s card. You can ask anybody wearing a shirt what their favorite song is or if they’ve seen them live. That’s actually acceptable, because you’re interested in their subjective experiences. Publically announcing to someone that you want to out-group them over a trivial matter is not.

          Edit: and generally, that’s how men interact with each other. But some take the existence of a woman in their fandom to be a direct attack on their already incredibly fragile masculinity.

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        I disagree that gatekeeping is either of those things. I also don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask people not to publicly associate themselves with a thing if they know nothing at all about that thing.

        The bar is on the floor here.

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          What people choose to associate themselves with in public is exactly fuck all of your business. Don’t be like the meme guy, tend to your own garden.

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            It’s completely my business! It’s the only reasonable way for fans of a thing to find each other in public and strike up a conversation about that thing. If I go up to someone wearing a Portal shirt and talk to them about my favorite parts of the game and associated media only to find out they’ve never even watched the trailers, and I ask them I can introduce them to the game and do the co-op campaign with them and they say they never intend to…

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          Gatekeeping really is not either of these things, but people can wear whatever they like. I can’t say I get why someone would do it at all, but not my problem.

          There’s a huge difference between using it as a conversation starter and asking about their favorite songs or whatever, since it’s reasonable to assume they know and like the band, and going “name 3 songs” because you assume they don’t listen to the band and also somehow care about that.

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          Gatekeeping isn’t inherently misogynistic or conformist, but the motivations in cases like this probably are.

          I also don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask people not to publicly associate themselves with a thing if they know nothing at all about that thing.

          Nobody owes anyone an explanation of how entitled they are to wear a band’s t-shirt.

          I’ve listened to enough iron maiden to know that I like the band, but could only name one song off the top of my head. Do I have your permission to wear their t-shirt?

          You’re channeling the same energy as someone that feels entitled to know about a stranger’s genitals if their bone structure seems misaligned with the gender they’re presenting.

          It’s so easy to not be an asshole watch this:

          Slayer fan:

          Iron maiden! Nice! I saw them play at XXXX back in XXXX. It was a wicked show.

          Iron maiden fan:

          Oh wow, that sounds so fun! I’ve just learned about them, but I’d love to see them in concert someday. The metal community is so welcoming!

          Or:

          Oh wow. I don’t really listen to them, but they were my cousin’s favorite band, she died recently, so I wear this shirt when I’m missing her.

          Or:

          Oh wow, I was at that show too!

          Or:

          my uncle is the drummer and is always giving me these

          Or:

          Uh huh? I just like the colours of the shirt.

          Life is so much better if you don’t make nasty assumptions.

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              Nothing, wrong with assuming someone likes the band who’s shirt they’re wearing.

              What’s nasty is assuming that they don’t, (because of how they look) and demanding they prove their fan credentials.

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      In these situations the asker is typically skeptical that your a “real fan”, usually because of sexism.

      It doesn’t really matter how you answer because they’re not asking for a genuine conversation, they want a dick measuring contest to prove they are superior. If you do fulfill their request chances are they’ll nitpick the songs you chose and still accuse you of being a “fake fan”.

      Gatekeeping often comes with moving the goalpost so the only winning move is not to play.

      A genuine asker would probably ask about your favorites rather than demand they answer trivia.

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      Do you believe that everyone needs to prove their fandom at a moments notice with inane trivia about that thing?

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      Here’s how the conversation could go without sounding like an ass:

      Him: Cool shirt. Do you like Iron Maiden?

      Her: No, I just like this shirt.

      Him: That’s cool. They’re one of my favourite bands. If you wanna hangout sometime I’d love to introduce them to you?

      Maybe not the last sentence but can you get the difference in tone?

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      I get it, I am a fan of a variety of bands from the 90s, I can sing every lyric but then I couldnt name the song, or bring them up if asked. I think its a memory some people have while other dont.