cw: sexual harassment and assault
i know its an unpleasant one but i get sexually harassed a lot by strangers and i want to know if other women don’t have a similar experience to me because its relentless.
i had three separate guys do something while i sat on a bench eating my lunch today for not even five minutes and it made me reflect on how its almost every time that i leave the house that there’s an incident with a man. i left my bag in the supermarket last week because a man followed me from the cafe I was in to ask me for my Snapchat - and told me so. three days before that, I had a man grope me on the bus while other men on the bus spoke over me for saying, “its ok. it happens all the time” with stuff like “well its not ok”. on another day this week, i got separated from a friend when we were walking through the city and a man stopped her to ask her if her boobs were real.
we talk about sexual harassment being a bad thing and an everyday experience for women but I still don’t think that we truely get across to people (particularly men) how incredibly non-stop it is.
I’m pretty sure I was sexually harassed twice as much before I was an adult than I do now. It doesn’t happen to me too often now but Ive still learned to keep my guard up. I’ve also learned to to not be shy and absolutely make a fuss in public rather than hide or run now. It works!
I’m old enough that it doesn’t really happen to me anymore. One of the silver linings I guess :\
Same same, though I’m still getting a lot of people staring at my tits
silver-hair lining huehuehue
I carry on my person two knives in two different locations at all times. I don’t use them for the typical low-grade harassment, but there’s enough of that low-grade harassment in my daily life that it makes me think I should be ready for the high grade stuff.
As I’ve aged the harassment has gone down, but even at 60 it still occasionally happens (because I look like I’m in my 40s according to most people). And the knives are still there.
Oof, I don’t leave my gaff unarmed anymore. Does this answer your question? 🤔
Yup, nothing made me more lesbian than just how men are, and it can be so subtle - a comment about looks, a backhanded compliment, not listening, etc.
And it just wears you down when it’s all day every day.
Honestly, almost never? And when I have received unsolicited attention, it has always been suuuuper mild - like, a guy cat calling across the street, but it has never escalated to more than that, and those are extremely rare occurences for me. Like, maybe once a year. This is one of those things that I don’t really identify with other women on. I do believe this happens to other women, I am not trying to discount other women’s experiences, but I have never had even one of occurrence of sexual harrassment in my life, let alone on a daily or weekly basis. I have always wondered why. Not that I am lamenting this, it just seems odd that something that seems to be such a pervasive problem for women everywhere is such a non-issue for me. Maybe I am not conventionally attractive enough to draw out this behavior from men? I am over 6’ tall and while not fat or anything, I definitely look strong/sturdy and capable of defending myself. And I’ve been told I have rbf, too. So maybe guys just decide I don’t look like the type to fuck with? I am also pretty severely introverted and spend very little time in public spaces, so maybe I just am not around people enough to even have this happen to me… Idk 🤷♀️
Yeah, it definitely seems like it’s my smaller stature friends who get harassed the most often. I think the type of men who do it are doing it as a power trip, so they go after women who they perceive as weaker than them.
I similarly haven’t received a lot of unsolicited attention in recent years, though it was much more common when I was in my 20s and living in a bigger city.
I chalk it up to my resting bitch face and “get shit done” demeanor I adopt when out in the world now. Literally adopting on air of I don’t have time for this shit. I’m rather short and decently attractive, but maybe my age is starting to show enough to slow down advances.
Similarly not discounting others experiences, especially OP. That sounds awful.
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At least once a month for me, mostly by teenage boys and unhinged guys who look like they don’t wash. Although one time this guy in a business suit made these really gross licking motions at me, so it can be dudes from all walks of life ig.
